Good Morning sport123
I am so glad that you have reached out to get some advice here and some support, it is a hard time to manage these sorts of things but I think we have something called "gut instinct", and I believe very strongly in it.
Whether he has said these things out of being drunk or not, the words have been spoken and if it has left you feeling bad and like there is not much interest in maintaining the relationship I think you should listen to your gut, it is rarely wrong. I have another saying too "if it feels wrong it usually is"...anyway...the fact you are feeling uncomfortable and you are wanting some support from your friends and not really want to spend time with him alone speaks volumes and I hope you can sit with this and really think if you want to continue this friendship.
I understand that you don't want to hurt his feelings, but what about your feelings? There is not an ounce of good if you are feeling bad and uncomfortable just so his feelings are not hurt. You don't have to be rude or mean, you can say " I am sorry I am just not up for a catch up at the moment but maybe another time"...if you really feel like you don't want anything more to do with him, once again you don't have to rude or mean but you do have to be honest. You could say that what he said to you has made you feel uncomfortable and that you don't feel like you want to catch up. There is nothing wrong with that.
If you are going to catch up with him I think that being honest with your parents is the best bet, you can say that you are currently unsure how you are feeling and that you are going to catch up with him to see if you have a friendship there or if you are infact going to part ways. Honesty is always best and they will appreciate the trust and the conversation with you and that you are being honest.
I hope that this has been helpful to you sport123 and I hope to chat to you some more.
Take care of you and put your feelings first, you matter and your self respect deserves it.