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Forums / Young people / Horrible anxiety, Depression and guilt after drinking

Topic: Horrible anxiety, Depression and guilt after drinking

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  1. Jestia08
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    3 August 2015

    Hey guys,

    so more or less just wanted peoples opinions here, I have had depression and anxiety or afew years now and have been on medication for it,

    my issues is anytime I drink whether its a few or a lot the next day I feel the need to call everyone I know was present and make sure I was not an idiot. its like I make up my own scenarios of things I may or may not have said I care what people think and about things I could of said that where just plain stupid.

    I am so sick of feelings this way I know im not a bad person and sometimes we all drink a little to much but why do I care so much what people think and worry what I said to them, I dont get into fights I dont get aggressive I just talk to much and get all happy and stuff.

     anyone else out there get like this or am I the only one?? just sucks and I really wish I could get rid of the bad feelings.

  2. Francesco
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    3 August 2015 in reply to Jestia08

    Hi!

    I have anxiety and I experience very similar things. Every time after I drink its like i have a crash and feel like kinda embarrassed even if i didnt do anything embarrassing i just feel so guilty and apologise to people and stuff.

    I care a lot about how others feel and clearly you do as well and thats a good thing but at the same time you would feel better if you lived life by your own opinions and standards of yourself. I am not too sure why you care as much as you do but could i recommend a form of counselling? - they can help you discuss your thoughts and gain some insight.

    The most important thing is that there is nothing abnormal about you or your behaviour. Well done for coming here.

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  3. Narniakid
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    4 August 2015 in reply to Jestia08

    Hey Jestia08! Welcome to the forums and thank you for sharing!

    That's completely normal, I actually get the same sort of feeling after I've had a night out. Overly the past couple of months, I've cut down a lot of alcohol in the past couple of months, originally as a way to save some more money, but I found that as I started to minimise my alcohol intake (mainly because I had work the following mornings) I actually found I didn't even need to drink at all! I realised that the alcohol, which I thought would minimise my anxiety, was actually making my anxiety worse the morning after.

    I definitely think you should consider keeping a mood chart or a diary, particularly whenever you're going out and after you've got some entries, take it along to your GP and have a chat to them about a proper diagnosis and some of the different tips and treatments options available.

    Crystal

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  4. PatT
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    5 August 2015 in reply to Jestia08

    Hi Jestia, 

    people who suffer from anxiety often have a difficult time after drinking. As you probably know alcohol is a depressant in small amounts - that's why most alcoholics are already highly anxious people because it reduces their anxiety. But small amounts means small amounts. Anything after that and alcohol interferes with the neurochemical balance in your brain and people experience severe hangover anxiety the next day - it's kind of like a threshold that once passed kind of reverses the whole anti-anxiety thing.

    I've had problems with drugs and alcohol for years. I spent some time in rehab last year and didn't touch alcohol for 6 months, now I'm an occasional drinker. Those 6 months were the clearest I've had in recent memory. I didn't have to worry about what stupid things I may have done the night before and the lack of hangover anxiety was amazing. I'd recommend giving it up for a few weekends. It can be painfully boring to go out sober but it gives you a different perspective on things and can really wake you up about how dependent you are on grog. Not saying you're an alcoholic but heaps of people I know find it near impossible to socialise sober. 

    If you've got any more questions about drinking don't hesitate to ask,

    Pat.

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  5. awesomenesstocome
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    15 June 2016

    2 weeks ago I attended my nephews 21st, had some wine and beer and was very merry. The feedback from my partners niece was that I was very messy, hit on everyone's partner and everyone wanted to punch me out. All posted on Facebook. And I was also not going to be invited to family functions anymore. Immediately I rung others who had attended and evidently it wasn't true, except that I was sloshy. My partner would've been the first to be angry if I was hitting on others. The nieces feedback was destructive to me and gutted me for days so much so that I still feel it. This woman has verbally been nasty and has written me off.

    I ask this, is there any wonder we feel guilty after drinking? I know this is extreme surely. Or have others felt this way?or had a similar experience?

    I have my partners 50th coming, do not want to invite this girl as I feel nervous about seeing her. But of course I have to.

    Could anyone give me some feedback?

    Hugs

    Tracy

  6. Narniakid
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    18 June 2016 in reply to awesomenesstocome

    Hey awesomenesstocome, thanks for reaching out to us.

    As a teenager I went through similar experiences and I remember feeling extremely depressed and anxious after a night out at a party, and it made me sick to the stomach when I heard friends were talking about how "messy" I was too.

    While most of us enjoy a drink or too, alcohol is definately not a great coping strategy, especially when dealing with your mental health. Not only does it leave you feeling low when you turn sober, it makes the other people around you, who perhaps aren't drinking, feel uncomfortable and sometimes even angry.

    Perhaps it is best you speak to them in person about the issue? Like with any conflict, communication is usually the key to resolving it, and you don't want to have that looming over you at your partners 50th.

    Crystal

  7. pipsy
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    18 June 2016 in reply to awesomenesstocome

    Hi there. I was also 'into' drink heavily as a youngster. The feedback I received made me question my values as a person. I still enjoy a drink, have been known to over indulge. Usually in the comfort of my home though. If I'm going out, I'll limit myself to having two or three. I know me enough to know when to stop. If you can learn the signs of enough is enough, your nasty experience should never reoccur. Crystal's suggestion of clearing the air between you and your partner's niece is a good one.

    Lynda

  8. WB
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    23 December 2016 in reply to awesomenesstocome
    Yes I can relate to your situation. Best thing is to accept the situation and talk it over. Realise there is so much more to you as a whole person and forgive yourself. Learn from the incident and move on.
  9. Ask Jay
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    5 January 2018

    Hi Jestia

    I know this is an old post, but thought it might be worth replying because of the general themes of anxiety following drinking :-) feelings that are not uncommon! I can see that you got some excellent replies from Crystal and Pat who talked about mood tracking using a diary and talking to your GP if you have ongoing issues.

    I think the main things to consider are:

    1) Alcohol is a depressant. People with anxiety often use alcohol because it helps them feel less anxious - and it usually does at the time - but may lead to increased anxiety the following day or couple of days.

    2) Any interaction between alcohol and the medication you're on. The research is not that conclusive, but there's the possibility that if you're taking an anti-depressant medication and you use a depressant (alcohol) it may inhibit the effect of the medication, leading to increased anxiety afterwards.

    It can be helpful to know that you may feel extra fragile after drinking, so you expect it and can plan accordingly. For example, doing low key enjoyable activities, postponing stressful conversations, whatever the things are, that make you feel better when you feel a bit out of sorts. And on a more practical note, eat well, get some rest and hydrate! This should all help you bounce back.

    If you find that the issues are ongoing, using a mood tracker or substance use diary can be helpful too. Try tracking day and time you drank, what you drank and how much, the situation you were in, your mood at the time, your mood afterwards. Just observing your patterns will give you more information about what is going on and then you can choose whether you want to do something about it.

    If you are REALLY concerned about your drinking, you could have a look at https://www.counsellingonline.org.au/ It's a national counselling, self help and harm reduction service and contains a lot of great information, as well as the option to do on-line/webchat or email counselling. It also has the contact details for alcohol and drug telephone counselling services in each state and territory.

    I hope this has been helpful - take care!

    Jay

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