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Forums / Young people / Unsure about the future

Topic: Unsure about the future

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  1. WW2002
    WW2002 avatar
    1 posts
    4 May 2021

    Hi,

    I feel like I'm a complete mess right now and have no direction of where to go in the future. I'm currently 18 years old and graduated High School last year, however, I do not currently attend Uni - due to reasons I will discuss later. Most days, I'm sat around at home doing basically nothing, staring at a phone or computer screen all day. I work 4-5 days a week however and have a steady income, as well as occasionally going out with friends or family maybe once or twice a week. Apart from this, I feel as if I have no social life due to not attending Uni the year after graduating High School.

    High School was a huge mess for me. I really wanted to succeed in life and my studies, but nowadays I feel so clueless and indecisive of what I want to do. I'd say I was genuinely a smart person and still am, however, I never used this to my full advantage. From years 7-10, I was pretty much scoring A's all around, up until mid-year 11. I was suffering from a loss of a family member who had really influenced me a lot throughout my life and was always there for me. From then on, I struggled a lot with grief and everything just skyrocketed down. I started failing all my classes and although each and everyone one of my teachers were deeply worried about how I was going, I myself chose not to open up to any of them. This led to me basically failing all throughout year 11 and 12, which is considered to be the most important schooling years. Mid-year 12, I started seeing my school guidance counsellor, but obviously it was too late for this and although they were of great help, it practically got me nowhere. I was heavily lacking in motivation and confidence, leading to what I'd classify as a very low ATAR score. Each and every one of my preferences required a somewhat high score - I wanted to succeed into scientific/medical field in my younger years.

    As of now, I live with my father and my older brother. Both of them think that I've started Uni and attend regularly (don't have time to check up on me due to their own lives, work, etc.), but all I do is just lay at home and work. I feel like my life is just going to keep repeating itself regularly. I'm planning to start mid-year but I feel as if I still have little to no motivation and confidence in myself to pursue into a course and actually do well. I'm scared to tell both my father and brother as I don't want to disappoint them even more, although they know how much stress I was going through in the last few years.

  2. Sophie_M
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    4642 posts
    4 May 2021 in reply to WW2002
    Hi WW2002, 

    It sounds like you are having a really tough time at the moment thinking about where you want to take your studies. This is totally reasonable and a really challenging time of life for everyone as they transition from school onto the next stage of their life. It is an incredible thing to do to reach out for support and we want to thank you for showing the courage to share your story with us here today. 

    There are a few resources that we have on our website that could be really useful for you and we have chucked the links in below. We also think it could be useful for you to have a chat to one of our counsellors about how you are feeling. It can be a really good way to get an idea of what the next steps can be when you talk it out with someone. Again, we will put a few options below that you can try out. 

    Welcome again to this community. Please feel free to have a look around the forums and jump into conversations that you feel like you relate to. The community here is really welcoming and friendly and I'm sure they will benefit form what you have to say. Also, if you want to it would be great for you to check back in here and update us on how you are going. 

    Resources to check out
    https://au.reachout.com/study-work-and-money/school-and-study
    https://www.beyondblue.org.au/personal-best/pillar/supporting-yourself/looking-after-yourself-in-first-year-uni
    https://www.beyondblue.org.au/personal-best/pillar/wellbeing/finding-the-work-life-balance-sweet-spot
    https://www.beyondblue.org.au/personal-best/pillar/wellbeing/how-to-study-mindfully

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    BeyondBlue
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    Kids Helpline 1800 55 1800

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    Kind regards, 
    Sophie M

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