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There can be a lot of things to think about when you are getting ready to have the conversation. Here’s some other things you might want to consider.
Choosing the right time
When it comes to planning when to bring it up, choose a time when you’re both relaxed and you won’t be rushed – when you’re out for a walk or drive, for example.
Sharing your story
If you’ve experienced anxiety or depression, sharing this with your friend can help him feel less alone, but it’s important not to make assumptions about how he’s feeling or give him instructions about what to do. You’re not there to ‘fix’ things, but by providing a listening ear and support, you can work things through together.
What you can offer to help with
Supporting a friend isn’t just about talking – practical help can make things seem more manageable. Offering to do some cleaning around the house, grocery shopping, going to doctors’ appointments or just spending time together can all make a difference.
Talking with your partner
A conversation might also be different between partners than one between friends. If you and your partner are struggling with the impact of depression and anxiety on your relationship, speaking to QLIFE about options for further support might help.
Looking after yourself
Lastly, when you’re supporting someone with depression or anxiety, you’re likely to experience a range of emotions, and these can take their toll. Providing support can be particularly tiring for a partner. Increased tension, decreased communication and reduced intimacy can all affect the relationship – you might need to set aside some time and space to take care of your own wellbeing. It’s important to look after yourself so you can stay healthy and be the best Wingman you can be. You can find information on looking after yourself here.