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Topic: How to move on

  1. Doolhof
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    20 May 2021

    Hi All,

    I've not been around for a while. It has been quite an interesting year since May last year. I've struggled quite a bit with Complex PTSD, BPD Depression, suicidal thoughts, panic attacks and grief.

    Where to from here? I have been stuck for a while with little energy to move on and not much of an idea how to move on anyway. It is hard when my mind decides it wants to disconnect as that feels safer and then I wander through each day like a person in a movie set, just pretending. Empty. Distant.

    Anyone else have trouble getting from one day to the next, waking up in the morning and wondering what on earth you are going to do with that day? At least at work I know I need to be there and have a rough idea what I am supposed to be doing!

    I wrote more here and deleted it. I have reached out for help in so many places. Maybe I am just too broken to be fixed. Maybe this is as good as it gets. Maybe I just need to be more grateful for all I do have and continue to stuff my issues down inside of me hoping they don't find a way to the surface anymore.

    The last psychologist I saw told me I need to buy new curtains for the house, a comfortable chair to sit in and new pictures for the walls! Oh yes, that will certainly help with the CPTSD, BPD, Suicidal thoughts, past traumas and unresolved grief that all come uninvited to attack my mind. Why didn't I think of doing that earlier! I don't need a psychologist I need thousands of dollars and an interior designer!

    How to move on? I am open to suggestions!

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    20 May 2021 in reply to Doolhof
    Hi Doolhof, 

    Welcome back to the forums and thank you for sharing your story and experiences with us here, it is a brave step along the journey to feeling better. It sounds like you are in a really tough place right now with some complex issues around depression, PTSD and suicidal thoughts, we are really sorry to hear that. It is great to see that you can so articulately explain the factors that are impacting you.

    We think it would be a good thing to call one of our wonderful counseeling team on 1300 22 4636, they will be able to help you when you are feeling low and are brilliant at supporting people while they have a panic attack. 
    If you prefer you can also call our friends at Lifeline 13 11 14 who are great as well.

    Please feel free to drop back in and update us on how you are going if you feel comfrotable. 

    Kind regards, 

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    20 May 2021 in reply to Sophie_M

    Hi Sophie,

    Thanks for the message, I appreciate your kind and encouraging words.

    I'm really wanting to find ways to help myself. Self help books go so far. I read the material, can put some of it into practise then have difficulty working on the tough stuff myself as I don't really understand the complexities of all that is going on in my head and why.

    Some of the Beyond Blue and Lifeline support people have been incredibly helpful, encouraging and caring.

    Maybe trying to understand my issues and wanting a formula to be able to live with them more peacefully is not available.

    Some days I am just stuck and don't know how to move forward. It is like my mind is just exhausted from trying.

    I know there are so many things I can do to help myself, something just stops me from doing those things.

    I am safe. I just need to encourage myself to keep going!

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    20 May 2021 in reply to Doolhof

    Hi Dear Dools..

    I am so pleased to hear from you, at the same time struggling so much...

    Dools..I have similar struggles to what you have spoken about....My only day of any structure is Tuesday’s...when I attend my volunteer work...every other day is waking up and not knowing what to do to fill the day in..instead of my usual internet games or sitting outside...

    My Dr. on Tuesday asked me what I do the other 6 days..my answer was..”sitting around waiting for Tuesday”....This subject has been on going now for many years...no motivation because..No matter what I do..I don’t have a reason or purpose to do anything....

    A few suggestions she gave me, was an hour of free online yoga, Tia chief or phalarties....No motivation to do those...she also mentioned a craft group, to learn how to make things and sell them online....too much work for me...maybe I’m lazy...idk...just seems like a waste of time for me....Then she mentioned beanies for cancer kids..the patterns are online..you make them them send to the organisation and they then hand them out for the poor little children struggling with cancer...This to me has a purpose and If I do do it..I will be helping someone in need....Unfortunately we had a mice plague out here...and while I was in hospital they decided to nest in my wool...now I need to buy some...

    Those are just a few ideas, that you might want to look at...

    As for living with PTSD..it’s really hard to manage the PTSD triggers...That’s what put me in hospital a month ago...They did teach me that if I hear something that down me..to immediately listen to something nice...if I see something that downs me..try to find something pleasant to look at...etc...etc...I always carry my Grounding packet with me in my bag...and have used it several times and it has helped me when I’m out and about doing my shopping...

    Not sure Dear Dools..If I helped you at all..but I wanted to try to give you some ideas..,

    My kindest thoughts always precious Dools..

    Grandy..

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    20 May 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi Grandy,

    Thanks for the chat and suggestions. I understand what you are explaining when you wrote it is hard to become involved in something when you don't feel like it has any value, purpose or sense of worthiness. That is a huge part of my issue.

    I know my depression and probably the PTSD is adding to that feeling. I know it will be beneficial if I can find something I can become involved in to feel like I am contributing and making a difference.

    Maybe I could find a crochet pattern for beanies for children and make some of those. My knitting is atrocious! Maybe that could be a challenge for me, try to learn to knit and see if I can make a beanie!

    I'm currently reading a book called "You're not broken" about PTSD, I have not yet reached the part where the author suggests ways of helping yourself. It does explain PTSD, some of the explanations still confuse me.

    I know my work is a trigger with so many people getting angry at me, not listening to what I am saying, discrediting the rules I am trying to recommend they need to adhere to due to Covid-19, and being down right nasty.

    Their behaviour really sets off my flight flight freeze reactions. I wish those darn cave dwelling people were able to combat their fears and could have passed down better coping techniques!

    I'm not all that good some days in controlling my reactions and actions triggered by past traumas that are re-ignited by people being nasty at me. Some days I really struggle to hold my tongue or to not flee my work place.

    I try to tell myself I can be strong and I can cope.

    Maybe trying to schedule and plan my days more constructively can be something I work on, starting tomorrow.

    Hope you are doing okay Grandy, sorry to read you have been in hospital again. In saying that, I hope people there were supportive and able to help you.

    Cheers from Dools

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    21 May 2021 in reply to Doolhof

    Hi All,

    This morning I have been for a walk, showered and had a healthy breakfast. I'm heading off to work a bit later for half a day.

    I am going to make a list of things I can do when I get home so I don't return and feel a bit lost as to what to do.

    I will read more of the book I mentioned above, take notes and write the helpful bits in my journal for easy access when I need reminders of what will make a difference.

    There is a blanket I have been crocheting for a while, I will work on getting that finished and then donate it to a charity for someone who will appreciate it.

    Does anyone have any tips on how to find motivation when it seems to be in hiding?

    Cheers all from Dools

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    22 May 2021 in reply to Doolhof

    Hi All,

    Have any of you managed to find ways to deal with your PTSD, how to recognise your triggers and how to move on from them?

    Have you found therapies that help you better understand PTSD and how to cope?

    Have you found it beneficial to go back and look at the cause of trauma and to try and heal from those of do you just try to block those memories?

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    24 May 2021 in reply to Doolhof

    How do you move on from trauma when the source of the trauma repeatedly affects and attacks you?

    Has anyone tried schema therapy? Have you found it helpful?

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    24 May 2021 in reply to Doolhof

    Hello Dear Dools...

    Its really good that you have been for an early morning? walk the other day....In the colder months I sit up longer as my house has been made warm and stay in bed until the frost has lifted....Too hard to warm an older fibro house with the frozen frost dripping from my house...looks lovely though..the little icicles sparking like crystals when the sun catches it.....

    My GP...set me up with a Victims Counsellor, who understands a lot about PTSD caused by CSA and DV...which I feel is helping a bit...I have been told that my mind is stuck in...Fight, flight or freeze and it needs retraining so to say....Also she did tell me that unfortunately PTSD is here to stay, because it’s memories and memories cannot be dissolved.....most times t can be an ongoing daily struggle, which has no cure..because it was caused by trauma which then puts some/most into depression...

    Dools, I try to daily to live my best life...I could say most days my PTSD isn’t even thought of by me..if it does pop into my mind, I let it go through peacefully and think of the positives around me...But if I get triggered into PTSD..that’s a lot different for me..I go down that quickly! almost instantly and hide myself from the world....That’s when I need professional care to help me to get back up....

    I haven’t tried schema therapy...heard about it but that’s it...

    Thats a beautiful idea donating the blanket you loving made to someone in need..,The beanie for cancer patients have some crocheted patterns as well...just thought I would let you know....

    What are you up today...Dear Dools?...Please regardless of what your doing..please find time to just sit somewhere outside and breathe in the freshness of nature, while your listen to the Dear little birds sing their songs of joy for us..

    Love to you precious friend...with my caring thoughts..

    Grandy..

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    24 May 2021 in reply to Doolhof
    Hi Doolhof, 

    We are sorry to hear that you are having trouble with how to manage trauma. Trauma can be a complex and multifaceted part of our journey towards positive mental health and is something that is best managed with the support of a Mental Health professional. There are many great strategies and methods that are used that you could discuss with them. 

    We have a place to start some learning if you want on our website, you can find the article n trauma here.

    Thanks again for being a part of the community Doolhof and please feel free to drop back in with an update if you would like. 

    Kind regards ,

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    25 May 2021 in reply to Sophie_M

    Thanks Sophie_M,

    I have been trying to gain assistance from MH professionals. One stated my trauma issues were too complex and they could not help.

    One stated they did not want to listen to my depressive thoughts.

    One stated she could help with DBT, CBT and Schema therapy then after a few sessions of just casual chit chat told me she doesn't actually do any of those therapies!

    So I am back to reading self help books...some advise that you obtain a therapist to help you work through the strategies as they can increase your sense of trauma and mental health issues, and having a therapist will assist you to deal with your issues!

    I no longer have my usual GP and each time I go to the medical centre I am passed off to a different Dr. There is no continuity of care and I am currently too tired to help myself.

    Maybe this is as good as it gets and I should just pull my socks up and get on with life.

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    25 May 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Dear Grandy,

    Thanks for your kind words. My PTSD is triggered most weekends at work when people yell at me, criticize me and treat me harshly. Brings back so many memories from childhood, adolescence and early first marriage. It is a shame I can't find the off button for the flight fight freeze stuff.

    Recent family interactions have been triggers as well.

    I was seeing a psychologist recently, I asked her how do I get out of being stuck and shut down, she told me I had to work that out for myself. If I don't understand how the trauma closes me down how can I find a way out?

    Yesterday I tried really hard to accept how I was feeling and to try to move on. I cut down dead branches off trees, piled them up, pulled up weeds, went shopping, made us lunch, cleaned up, sat down and painted for a while, had a snooze which I try hard not to do, and made dinner and did the dishes.

    Today I am volunteering and working. It is raining so that will be refreshing for the garden.

    I'm trying Grandy! Thanks for your caring and compassion. Cheers to you from Dools

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    25 May 2021 in reply to Doolhof

    Dear Doolhof,

    your first post here really resonated with me and I understand that dreadful feeling of waking and wondering how to get on the day.

    I see this as tragic that I do not find joy in doing life’s simple things.

    I have had PTSD since I lost my job under very traumatic circumstances five years ago. It really affected my soul. I have not worked since and am past retirement age . For some time I saw myself returning to some work but could not bring myself to try and lost a lot of confidence.

    retirement was not something I had thought about much and I loved my job. So now I don’t see just keeping house and seeing some family much of an inspiration.

    I sort of stumble through the days . I see my GP to help me manage my depression and anxiety, but I don’t see a counsellor. And I certainly don’t want to see one who tells me to get new curtains!

    Your work does not sound like a healthy place to be if people are shouting and criticising you.

    i have not tried Schema therapy, in fact I had to look it up. I have done loads of CBT, but have not found it that fantastic.

    it certainly doesn’t sound like you have found great therapists, how you find the right one , I don’t know I think it can be a mix of the right referral and luck.

    yesterday sounds very productive for you and you did something creative for yourself as well. That I think always helps and is a great way of being absorbed and not having to think about life’s stressors.

    i saw you here when I first joined and had not seen you recently, so it is good to see you back and be able to identify with what you are expressing.

    thank you

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    25 May 2021 in reply to Tess2

    Hi Tess,

    Thanks for responding, it is lovely to hear from you. I am sorry to read you had such a traumatic time at your workplace and that you are feeling lost. It can be a bit difficult getting through a day when you have little sense of purpose.

    I'm trying to balance my day with work (at home or paid) doing something pleasurable, a physical activity of some kind and tossing in some self care!

    Thankfully at work it is the public who abuse me and not fellow staff. That makes it a little easier to handle.

    Some of the therapists have had some good advice, maybe I am just expecting too much from them? I know I have to do a lot of work myself. A helping hand when I am really struggling would be good.

    Have you considered volunteering at all? I am enjoying chatting and visiting some elderly people in an Aged Care facility. I have a wonderful laugh with some of them. I know volunteering is not for everyone and also realise it may be difficult in this present age.

    Yes, being creative does help to brighten my spirts. It is a case of making time to do things that are enjoyable and trying to see they have a purpose in life as well.

    I don't know about you, I sometimes find it hard to put the helpful practises in place when I am not having a good day. CBT has helped in the past so maybe I will give that another try.

    Hope you are having an okay kind of a day Tess.

    Cheers to you from Dools

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    25 May 2021 in reply to Doolhof

    Dools

    thank you for your honesty.

    I am sorry that counsellors and Drs are unable to help you. You are asking for help but for various reasons they let you down

    I have no answers but I keep trying.

    take care

    ,

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    26 May 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Hi Quirky,

    Part of me feels like I need to go into a place where I will receive some assistance, therapy, group sessions, be encouraged to be creative once more, be listened to, cared for, where I can feel safe, calm down, unwind and gain a better perspective of my life.

    I'm so highly strung right now and on edge, the slightest thing is tipping me over.

    From my experience, those places don't exist except for in the movies or if you have a lot of money for private cover.

    Maybe I need to stop dreaming! I try to stop the thoughts, they just keep coming!

    Hope you are doing okay Quirky. Cheers.

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    Hi Doolhof, I appreciate your feelings 100% and they resonate with me. I am an Aboriginal descendent from my Watjarri ancestors and although I was not directly affected by the stolen generation the flow-on effects or intergenerational traumas I guess continue. My mother had severe mental health issues, which was occurring concurrently at the time of one of Australia's worst recessions in 1991 where my Dad lost his job and he had four mouths to feed, and left the family when I was 8 leaving me with PTSD like feelings of abandonment. I also have pathological ADHD so the whole of my school life I felt like I didn't belong and had few friends as I was considered the 'weird one'. I was bullied to some extent as well and my stepmother sadly passed away in 2001. All these things culminated in a sense of identity crisis and longing for love and acceptance that I still feel to this day. I know we are not all this lucky, but my father raised me to be strong and courageous through God's will and I kept going despite the hurt, despite the resentment, I joined the emergency services when I was 25 with the hope of helping the community. That didn't work out and I ended up with even more severe PTSD. The moral of my story I guess though is that despite being ridiculed at school, work, etc. I took it one day at a time. I still have a long way to go but I have since found maternal love and acceptance from my step-mother of 17 years, have found acceptance from my Aboriginal community, have been honest with myself about how I feel, and have underdone Psychotherapy and NLP training which I still maintain to this day. I had a teacher who told me in high school I would not succeed in higher academia because of my condition. I have since got a Bachelor's degree and am currently studying a master's and JD in law. I say this not to spite her but to prove we can accomplish anything despite what the naysayers and non-believers believe. I've started to believe in MYSELF more and I don't know whether it's spiritual or not but my life has, for the most part, changed drastically in a good way. I continue to move forward not for myself but for God my aboriginal ancestors, my mother, my late stepmother, my current family and most of all to honour you and the rest of the BB community. Just know you are not alone and we are here for you as one big community. Everyone else's negativity is just white noise.I hope you start to feel better soon from the bottom of my heart, warm regards, Rhys
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    27 May 2021 in reply to Backtheblue91

    Hi Rhys,

    I truly thank you for sharing your amazing story of courage, enthusiasm, determination grit and everything else you have needed to keep going. You are very inspirational.

    Right now I am feeling confused and devested about life. I keep picking myself up only to feel like someone has pulled the rug out from underneath me again, seeing me crashing to the ground.

    We found out today it is extremely likely a mayor trucking route and highway is going to be built right out the front of our home this year.

    My mother has told me she doesn't want me to visit her new home unless she has a task for me to do there.

    Siblings have told me to stop hassling Mum when all I have done is ask if she needs help and to offer suggestions on where she can gain access to businesses she needs help with.

    I have asked for help at work regarding people abusing and yelling at me and I am told it is part of the job and to just get on with it.

    My resilience is low and I keep feeling like I am being kicked in the head repeatedly. I try. I really do. But why?

    I have some connection with one sibling but that is it.

    God seems so distant. Most nights I pray that I will not wake up in the morning.

    I know I have so much to be thankful for, but when the mind is so screwed up and the heart is shattered what is the point?

    I will read your story again tomorrow. Thank you once more for sharing, I greatly appreciate your sense of encouragement. I sincerely congratulate you on all you have achieved within yourself and academically.

    May you continue to shine , regards from Doolhof.

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    28 May 2021 in reply to Doolhof

    I can feel myself declining rapidly.

    I don't know where the brakes are anymore to stop this.

    I'm throwing out the anchors but they are not attaching to anything.

    I don't know where to go to get help.

    I don't know where to go for answers to the issues that are haunting me.

    My mind is tired. I can't work this out for myself right now.

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    29 May 2021 in reply to Doolhof
    Thinking of you Dools. Hang on with every ounce of strength you have. It’s bad now but it will get better. Just know you have a secret crowd barracking for you on here. Phone any or all of the emergency numbers. You are overwhelmed right now but “this too shall pass”. Prayers, kind thoughts & fingers crossed for you. T.
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    30 May 2021 in reply to topsy_

    Hi Topsy,

    Thanks, I appreciate your kind words and prayers.

    It is tough when you feel like no one cares, so thanks for the reminder that someone does care.

    Yes I am overwhelmed and have felt that way for a while. I try really hard to find ways to relax and to accept life then something else comes along and my resilience in low.

    I need to "re-charge my batteries" but seem to be struggling to find ways to do that in a way that I feel sustained past the activity.

    Thanks again for your words, I greatly appreciate them. Cheers form Dools

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    30 May 2021 in reply to Doolhof

    Dools and everyone reading,

    I think when we struggle or suffer we find it hard to find a way out of dense jungle of fears and complex thoughts.

    we hope for an easy path out but sometimes we have to keep trying or even just sit and a knowledge what we are experiencing.

    Sorry for the imagery. I feel we look for answers but maybe it is the journey we must experience however painful.

    Dools your words speak to me and I offer you support and to listen.

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    30 May 2021 in reply to Doolhof

    Hi Dools

    i'm sorry for ur struggles

    PTSD is complex and difficult and i think, tiring? Exhausting?
    how to move on.... i don't know if maybe moving on is needed. How to accept where we are maybe? i don't know, just spitballing....
    How can i be here in this moment and okay with myself is something i fight with everyday. No motivation or very little and then berating myself and not knowing why I can't just do what others can do. Letting things be helps me more... if that makes sense. Sitting with it...

    Staying well is hard, PTSD is hard, but u dont have to walk it alone. Sharing here is really inspiring and a beautiful step. Thank u for inviting us to join this conversation, and talking about what u struggle with. There's an army of ppl behind you, who go through the same and want to help.

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    31 May 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Hey Quirky,

    I understand what you are saying here, but I am over experiencing this kind of journey! I want to find the off switch for negativity and suffering for a while until I gain some more energy and a better perspective on how to deal with this stuff.

    I have a shelf full of self help books I have read and have written copious notes. How to I get my brain to go from reading the material, understanding it to actually putting it into practise so I don't keep feeling like I am falling off the edge?

    A quote I read this morning stated to keep going no matter how stuck you feel. How do you do that? How do I get unstuck? I am trying. Some days stuck is stuck.

    I accept I am struggling. Now what? I'm trying. Just don't know how or where to from here.

    Cheers from Dools

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    31 May 2021 in reply to Sleepy21

    Hi Sleepy, Quirky and All,

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts here too Sleepy, okay so maybe I just need to accept this is how I am feeling, stuff has happened, it has affected me, this is where I am at right now, it is okay to not be okay and not be so hard on myself.

    Sounds okay when I write it...just need to put that into action!

    I don't like feeling this way. I wish I could change how my mind works. I want to be happy and content. I want to laugh again. I want to see the good in life, to actually feel connected to the pleasant stuff.

    Maybe fighting the negatives is too tiring. Maybe with all this battling my own thoughts I am not allowing room for healing, peace of mind and acceptance!

    Hey Sleepy, this conversation is certainly open to anyone who would like to join in. I know there are so many hurting, broken, confused and troubled souls out there looking for a different way of doing life.

    Finding ways to better accept ourselves and how our minds are right now and share ideas on how to move on can benefit us all.

    To all reading, I hope you find acceptance, a way to move forward and some peace. Kindest regards for your healing journey, from Dools

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    31 May 2021 in reply to Sleepy21

    Hi Sleepy,

    Regarding "spitballing" I had never heard that expression before apart from the obvious of being balls of paper combined with spit, so I Googled it and discovered "Spitballing is throwing out ideas for discussion, brainstorming and expressing solutions to a problem"

    Okay, so let's spitball some suggestions on how to accept where we are at and move on if that is what we want to do.

    Things I could try:

    - accept some days don't feel all that good, work with what I have that day and don't be harsh on myself

    - think about something I could do to help me feel better about the day

    - go for a walk if possible and look around me, appreciating what I see

    - find 3 things to be grateful for each day

    - write down what is hassling me, see if I can find solutions using CBT

    - have a cup of tea

    - consider my attitude to how my day is going, what can I change to help me feel more relaxed right now.

    Any ideas and suggestions are welcome! Sharing how you are travelling here is more than okay as well.

    Cheers all from Dools.

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    31 May 2021 in reply to Doolhof

    love it !

    i think of spitballing like in a boardroom lol - probably saw it on a movie...love that i used it in the right way - at least :)

    lets brainstorm for sure.

    Self care strategies

    Sitting in the sun and appreciating nature

    developing and nurturing our interests and passions in small ways

    also "bookmarking" - mentally finding and sourcing things to do in the future, even if i can't do it just yet

    things to buy, experience, watch, read, learn about.... i'm doing that during lockdown :)

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    1 June 2021 in reply to Sleepy21

    Hi Sleepy and All Reading,

    I like your suggestions Sleepy. It is so easy for me to feel stuck when the low moods hit. Motivation seems to disappear and ideas on what to do take flight!

    Some things that have been suggested to me in the past and that I immediately forget about when I start to free fall are:

    - preparing a list of things I could do in advance to have handy on a not so cheerful day

    -try and do something even when you don't feel like it, as it encourages the mind to find enjoyment and helps change thought patterns.

    - distract the mind with reading, drawing, colouring in, cleaning out a cupboard or cooking .

    I like the idea of bookmarking ideas for activities to do in the future! My list might include:

    - buy a kite

    - set up the tent in the back yard, even if it is just for a day time snooze

    - pot some plants to give away

    - find museums and art galleries to visit when able to

    - walk along different streets in the town I drive through for work. ( might help with anxiety issues going to work if I am more relaxed when I arrive)

    I'm feeling more inspired! Thanks everyone. I want to work on finding some small craft project that I can achieve easily and then hope to progress onto other projects.

    Cheers all from Dools

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    1 June 2021 in reply to Doolhof
    Dools I like your list. I like your plan to prepare activities in advance.
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    2 June 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Hi quirky,

    The idea about planning things in advance was suggested by Sleepy.

    When I start to sink into depression or my PTSD is triggered, it is really hard for me to figure out how to get through that moment let alone what I might be doing tomorrow.

    Having a list of things to do is a great idea, gives me hope instead of being really stuck.

    I was triggered by a phone call Monday that affected me deeply, I tried to come up with ways to deal with that. Reading then cleaning up a little helped with distraction until I was ready to consider what had been discussed.

    Maybe I need to make a longer list and start checking some things off as I do them.

    Cheers from Dools

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