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Topic: Coping during the Coronavirus outbreak

  1. golden82
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    10 September 2020 in reply to Summer Rose
    Thank you SummerRose; that is very lovely of you to take the time to say this. I hope you are having a nice day and managing as best you can :)
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  2. Sleepy21
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    10 September 2020

    Summer Rose couldn't agree more re Quirky's assistance

    You yourself are speaking from the heart and sharing here which I admire. Your kindness and sweet nature shines through.

    I hope everyone is okay.

    Here in Melbourne life is not so fun during these times. To answer Quirky's question, I find mixing up my routines helpful and trying new things in small ways, like a new coffee shop, a new park. Today I bought some sneakers with click and collect and then got an ice coffe at a nearby coffee shop. New faces, new sights. I didn't realise how much I missed the stimulation of small talk and meeting new people. This isn't the same as real socialising, but it breaks up the routine a little bit.

    I also took an art therapy class on Zoom today and it was so beautiful. I guess what I'm benefitting from is mixing things up a bit and giving new things a go.

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    10 September 2020 in reply to Maxsmum

    Hi Maxsmum -

    was just wandering how you are today? How are you doing at the moment?

    Saying no is so hard... the only tip i have is to add one more setence... Sorry I can't because .... and to then explain the effect it could have on you

    Sorry I can't because it would cause me to miss an appointment which I really need to go to

    Sorry I can't because I would worry if I don't take this call a bit later...

    Sorry can't.... because...

    I practise this a lot because those words are hard for me to. It's really saying Sorry I can't because I have feelings too and they are important for me to honour right now.

    Also you must be so empathetic and skilled at listening that people are always turning to you - this is a special gift although I can so understand it's hard to get space for yourself too. I hope you feel okay over these tough times

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  4. quirkywords
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    10 September 2020 in reply to Sleepy21

    Hello all

    sleepy

    I think sorry I can’t can be helpful.

    as someone who always says sorry even when not needed I hope we can say I can’t without saying sorry, just a thought.

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  5. Sleepy21
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    10 September 2020 in reply to quirkywords

    thanks for hearing me and adding to that quirky , feels comforting to know you can say I can't without a sorry. I understand and also find it hard to say no without a good reason,it makes sense that without the sorry it's saying with more self-regard and strength. Thank you!

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  6. Lauren57r
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    15 September 2020 in reply to Sleepy21
    How do you keep going when you constantly keep getting bad news and you have nothing to look forward to. And judgement and family are always telling you how to live your life and you feel you dont know what your purpose is any more
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    16 September 2020 in reply to Lauren57r

    lauren

    This does seem a year for bad news for many people. I have had a lot of bad news this year and so has many people. it is hard to cope with and then we don’t know what else will happen so find it hard to be positive.
    I think family think they know best don’t they so they try to help.

    This year people have told me where I should live, what I should do, etc

    Is there may one you can chat to that will listen?This is a support place and we are here to listen.
    I suppose I just try to have hope that things will improve and focus on the small things that I like in my life and can look forward to.

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  8. quirkywords
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    16 September 2020 in reply to Lauren57r

    lauren

    i forgot to add to my post about your studies. I was wondering have you finished or do you have more to study.
    I know that was concerning you last year. I was thinking that the covid may have been among the bad news you were writing about,. Or was it your studies and the uncertainty of the future.
    I remember before covid you were feeling how you keep going and stay motivated.

    Quirky

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  9. ecomama
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    16 September 2020 in reply to Lauren57r

    Lauren57r said:How do you keep going when you constantly keep getting bad news and you have nothing to look forward to. And judgement and family are always telling you how to live your life and you feel you dont know what your purpose is any more

    Dear Lauren

    We just do keep going.

    You CREATE purpose in your life. We have a beautiful thread on Manifestation. It's about doing this.

    If your family are constantly telling you what to do, this noise can get in the way of us creating our own purpose which is what we must do. During our most challenging times in our lives, we must FORGE this purpose and have determination and discipline to do so.

    You already do this in some sectors of your life. Indeed you have proof that you CAN achieve what you set your mind to.

    We can respectfully disagree with anyone in our life. It's whether those people have respect for US is the material point. When this is missing we can show respect for ourselves.

    Ignoring relentless bad news is a freeing thing to do for our exhausted psyche.

    Love EM

  10. Lauren57r
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    20 September 2020 in reply to ecomama
    Thanks for your kind words and advice
    Its more the what comes next stage as I'm a person who always has a forward plan but because of covid I don't have a forward plan for next year and its quite scary and I dont know if certain things will stand the time and thrive in distance
  11. MummaPetal
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    22 September 2020
    Hi,

    I just wanted to share that I've had my ups and downs with the Melbourne lockdowns. Most days have been good.

    I've found the most challenging thing is being a mother, wife, teacher and part-time self employed. I've been meditating and slow breathing. I've also been going the some marriage difficulties.

    I had to go to our local hospital ED lately as my heart began racing. I had an easy day but nothing I could do made a difference. I was diagnosed with arrhythmia from the stress of the lockdown. I'm being very mindful now to limit social media and the news and focus more on what is nurturing in my life and to surround myself with people who support me. Being able to spend more time in the sun has made me feel a lot better too.

    My doctor said this lockdown can and has been having a subliminal affect on people.

    Take care all,
    MP
  12. Doz86
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    22 September 2020 in reply to MummaPetal

    Hi Mumma Petal,

    Thank you so much for sharing and I'm so sorry to hear about your health due to the stresses of COVID.

    Reading your post reminded me of the power of breath, I did it once today when stress, I need to do it more!

    Hope your smiling considering.

    Regards,

    Doz

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