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Topic: Coping during the Coronavirus outbreak

  1. CalmCat
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    30 May 2021 in reply to Lauren57r

    Hi Lauren57,

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us.

    Don't get me wrong, apart of me agrees with you, but unfortunately there is nothing we can do about it till we all get the vaccine.

    All I can say is stay strong, we've done it before and can do it again.

    Regards,

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    Hi all those in Lockdown (and anyone else affected by it, e.g. loved ones in other places)

    Thoughts with you all during this difficult time. I see how it must have shocked everyone when the lockdown hit again. We've had that in Brisbane, but no nearly as often and as frightening as you have in Melbourne.

    Seven days must feel like an eternity. The time will pass and it would be good to hear what everyone has done to get through this time.

    I see above that some want to reach out to others. That's a great start. Going for a walk in the fresh air helps a lot. I did that last year when we were in lockdown. Along with lots of different types of baking that I've never done before. Loads of photos were edited and I was able to put together an exhibition for our local library on 'COVID19 lockdown'. The exhibition is still up and will be there till August.

    What has amazed me is the resilience of so many people, even though people are feeling the anguish. People want to reach out to others who feel they are worse off than themselves. Beautiful human beings we are.

    So sorry to hear this morning though that there are a couple of cases in nursing homes. That is very sad. Thoughts with you all.

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    31 May 2021 in reply to PamelaR

    hi Pamela

    thanks for ur compassion and sweet support for those who are struggling now during the lockdown

    seven days does feel like an eternity, i can't describe it, my personal situation is really hard and isolating anyway and this feels very rough and drawn out.

    each day feels like an eternity, tbh

    we can't do much and are all hanging in the balance. we don't trust the government's messaging after so much confusion. or at least i don't. we are tired.

    I guess everyone's different but I personally feel sad. Such long , unpredictable lockdowns. So confusing and overwhelming.

    I think a few days would've felt better but seven days has made it feel like it's just not ending. The other day I was really craving a hug. I have not had one for a long time.
    I don't have a lot of contact with others at the best of times and those I do, i can't really hug.
    I feel distant and upset.

    Today is Monday.
    I survived the weekend and will try and get through monday. My favourite show is on tonight so i'll watch that. Eating foods I like. Staying cosy. Doing stuff by email and phone to feel productive and like I have stuff lined up for when lockdowns (do!!) end.

    It is nice to see a small and quiet store that I like flourishing (bit twisted... but ) because they are the only store around that serves takeaway coffee, and ppl are needing it. So usually they've been quiet and struggling, and now everyone, on their 2 hour of excercise break, are getting takeaway coffees.
    hope everyone's staying safe and mentally ok

    Mental health is important, at all times, and especially now, to my dear Victorians, take care of urselsves x

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    31 May 2021 in reply to Sleepy21

    Hi to Vics.

    l always feel guilty being up on the coast 2 1/2 hrs from all the troubles right through this . Things have been different for sure even for us up here but at the same time relatively normal to compared. And l work at home and outside so my days are just the typical of any other wk really , head down the street or to another town to pick some stuff up or just get out . Not as many people around but that doesn't bother me , a lot more walkers though.

    Soooo, l'm sorry it's so tough on Melb' , will say though it's lucky they did this especially with this strain. Another 11 cases today but with this they'll get on top of it soon , try to sit tight numbers should start disappearing soon l think hopefully.

    l could imagine how tough and emotional it must be and sorry you guys are going there again. lt shouldn't be long hopefully , hang in there.

    ps , sleepy saw your other post sorry this is so tough. There must be so many people alone shame they couldn't connect with ea other.

    rx

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    31 May 2021 in reply to randomx

    Hi PamelaR,

    Thank for such a lovely reply with some great ideas.

    I've been getting into cook since lockdown started, I've made some amazing pastas and some great Asian dishes over the weekend.

    But you mentioned the best thing to do during lockdown which is going for a nice long walk and getting some fresh air. Lockdown walks are heaven send!

    Would love to know what others are getting up to.

    Regards,

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    31 May 2021 in reply to PamelaR

    Hi Pamela and Randomx

    I can’t thank you enough for your posts—actually had tears in my eyes.

    Had a really bad day dealing with lockdown induced stress at work and don’t see it getting any time soon. So, your posts gave me a much needed boost.

    Thank you again.

    Kind thoughts to all

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  7. Gelati
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    Hello everyone.

    I too am in Melbourne. The things I struggle the most with during our lockdowns are: Having to wear masks outside (especially when no one is around - which makes me very reluctant to leave the house - I have a psychological eversion to the idea), not seeing people's facial expressions (makes it hard to hear, as I assume I must be partly lip reading when people talk ordinarily, and not seeing smiles), not having places I associate with tranquility within my reach (the Dandenongs are just beyond 5km), knowing I don't have the ability to drive aimlessly to a nice spot on the weekend, having all my workmates interstate who seem to live in another world and not understand Melbourne life or ask how I am, having family just 15 mins away but beyond my 5km, not having shops available to me unless they are essential, seeing local businesses collapse and having Melbourne's soul taken each time. The media hype and images of Melburnians as though we are in a fish bowl and the token images of an empty Bourke St Mall, and the politics in the covid response, all make my blood boil.

    Ah, sorry - I feel better getting that off my chest. Phew!

    Now, what IS helping me a great deal this time is the fact I decided on Friday night I would switch off from all mainstream media. I take a quick look at the Vic Gov DH twitter each morning for an update of the pure facts. Gosh, what a difference - As a result I am having less phone screen time.

    Another nice thing I noticed is that when I do interact with people - eg pick up takeaway or pass another walker, we say a friendly hello because we can't show our smiles.

    Has anyone found comfort in either of the above?

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    31 May 2021 in reply to Gelati

    Hi Gelati

    Im in Victoria and understand your frustration with this lockdown

    You are a Champion for switching off all mainstream media especially internet based feed. You are proactive with your health by doing so Gelati. Nice1....Paul

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  9. Gelati
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    31 May 2021 in reply to blondguy

    Thanks Paul!

    Hope you're doing ok!

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  10. SingleMum123
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    Hi everyone,

    I'm in Melbourne and like many others, I feel very upset and frustrated about this latest lockdown.

    I'm not scared of the virus, I'm more scared that we won't live our lives ever the same again. Livelihoods can be changed so quickly. I worry for people in less fortunate situations.

    I really don't like wearing a mask. I have a medical exemption but wear one anyway to avoid judgement. I don't like not being able to pick up on non-verbal cues or being unable to lipread. I have a slight hearing issue.

    I have also found switching off from social media helpfully for lockdown anxiety as well as steering clear from certain news sites. It all seems to be written in a bleak and sensational way.

    I am trying to focus on what I do have. Going for walks helps ground me.

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    31 May 2021 in reply to SingleMum123

    Hi SingleMum123

    you are not alone with the way you feel....there are many Victorians that feel the same as yourself..me included

    You mentioned 'switching off from social media helpfully for lockdown anxiety'..Same here

  12. Black Bubblegum
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    Hi guys. Back again, still on the merry go round of misery :P

    I actually had been making real progress the last few months, got a new job, had started being more social and finding ways to talk my issues out but once again, back here. Outside of a very few people, I'm not really letting anyone into how much turmoil is inside of me, maintaining the stoicism, for the sake of the people I work with and my parents I look after, keeping that whole stiff upper lip thing.

    But inside I am filled with an incredible amount of anger and hate, every time I see political or government figures on TV or the news, they literally make my blood boil. Regardless of party.

    Every day I keep having the same thoughts over and over again, that all of these people have stolen over a year of my life.

    I was really starting to get fit, but I've already started just binge eating crap again, not even because I'm hungry or I like the taste, I just want to feel something other than anger and sadness.

    Sorry I'm ranting. Just thought putting this in words might make me feel better.

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  13. Mimsy19
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    1 June 2021 in reply to Black Bubblegum

    That's so frustrating. Ditto on feeling blood boil at the sight of anyone in government. Federal or state, if I see them on TV, I just turn it off. I don't trust them or want to hear from them.

    Others have said avoiding social media is a help, but I am finding the opposite, it just depends on the social media. I've been hanging around on a stamp collecting Facebook page I belong to. It's such a friendly, caring group. Makes me feel less isolated.

    I wouldn't get too angry at myself for eating to feel better. I've been indulging in a special hot chocolate blend, it's as good a coping method as any. You'll get fit again when lockdown ends, probably best not to worry about it right now.

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    1 June 2021 in reply to Summer Rose

    Hi Summer Rose

    Sorry to hear that things are hectic at work and causing stress. Pleased of course to hear our posts were well reciprocated by you. It is a difficult time for everyone. And stress at work is the last thing you need. Knowing you Summer Rose you will kick in with your experience and move through this turbulence, coming out the other side on top of things. You are such a support here on the forums.

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    Thank you Calm Cat for your kind words.

    To others who find listening to and watching politicians - I understand completely. I very rarely watch the news, media reports, current affair programs. It's not just the pollies that get me upset it's also the ridiculousness of the media. So, not watching or listening is my way of managing things.

    What I do though to keep informed is - go to the websites that provide factual information.

    Like you Mimsy 19 I have favourite FB pages - e.g. nature and photography groups that are caring and sharing (of good things - photos of birds and animals). This keeps me in social contact. There was a near miss though awhile ago when one member had strident views about world politics. It turned me off for awhile, but things have settled down now - thank goodness.

    Some of my other activities during lockdown have been - photography of nature and still life in my backyard and the corridor along our local creek. I also did some voluntary work (online) with Blue Voices helping to shape their direction and policies. These activities help to support my mental and physical health.

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    1 June 2021 in reply to PamelaR

    Hi Guys,

    Black Bubblegum & Single Mum123 thank you for letting us in on how your feeling, its intriguing to know how others are feeling in these uncertain times.

    The negatives of lockdown hit me yesterday, as I saw a friend in the street while on a walk and we didn't hug hello which triggered a sense of disappointment. But we still managed a nice chat and my sad feelings moved on.

    I've been getting into Big Brother of all things, I'm finding it nice and distracting. Also I've been going to the local deli every second day to buy some nice cold cuts for lunch, having some variety has been great!

    On some great news, only 3 cases of COVID today, touch wood some more good news soon.

    Regards,

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    hi CC

    ur post was lovely and thanks for sharing ur experiences and encouraging everyone to stay strong

    i hope soon if you are walking u'll be able to hug your friend and we can be close to others and have community events sooner rather than later

    today i was indoors at a cafe which had all distancing and everything but a few ppl were waiting around indoors and i got jumpy

    moreso about doing the wrong thing, offending someone, being screamed at that i wasn't distancing, being accused of something etc...

    triggered and reminded me of a few times that had happened to me during lockdown eg day 2 of first lockdown when i forgot to wear a mask (left it in my car....) and was attacked and harrassed by a customer in a shop

    Something about the stress levels and the intense reactions u find from strangers is a little overwhelming

    but i was proud of myself today becaues i flat-out spoke what was happening for me

    eg said in the cafe to the barista that i hoped i was doing the right thing and that i'm just so anxious with all the new rules. It elicited a compassionate and empathetic response. :)

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    1 June 2021 in reply to PamelaR

    Hi Pamela

    Thanks for your encouragement. And, yes, today was a much better day.

    Went into work super early so I could leave early to get in a big walk with my daughter--the bay and the sky were so beautiful. Shades of grey, blue and even pink--reminds me how good it is to be alive. And it was so nice to have a laugh with my beautiful girl. Looking forward to one of my favourite shows tonight, Love on the Spectrum. No news, no Covid stats, no politicians.

    Yes, today I'm back! Ready to ride the wave tomorrow.

    Kind thoughts to all

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    1 June 2021 in reply to Summer Rose

    I'm still struggling. My appointment today with the doctor was over the phone which was frustrating as he can't see what the problem is. I try to explain but it is not the same as seeing. Given the situation I assume my next hand therapy appointment will be online which will be a waste of time. I'm not going to attempt a videocall next time as it is too stressful.

    I'm very unmotivated feeling like life is no longer worth living. Sunday I had to get out of the house because I was so anxious and feeling trapped. Worrying about breaking the rules going out without exercising was stressful. The trapped feeling I think is related to my PTSD. I can't be in a house with the doors locked. I have to unlock every door so I can get out quick if I need to. That is OK but feeling like I can't leave because of the restrictions is really difficult.

    That high level of anxiety has levelled off to just complete loss of motivation and feeling life is not worth living. I don't have the motivation to use strategies to manage my depression.

    I understand and agree with the reason we have the lockkdown but don't see why appointments with health professionals are not allowed.

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    Hey Elizabeth CP, 

    We're so sorry to hear that your appointment today didn't go as smoothly as you'd hoped, and we can hear that pain and frustration that you're feeling due to these restrictions. It sounds like you're doing your best to keep your anxiety levels low, including getting out of the house when feeling trapped, but understand that this in itself can still be anxiety-inducing with restrictions in place. 

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    We're all here to help support you through this Elizabeth.
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    I am so incredibly angry about another lockdown. We kept getting promised that if we did the right thing etc etc there will be outbreaks but we won’t keep locking down. But here we are again. We don’t even know if it WILL end in a few days - the uncertainty is sending me over the edge.
    I am so angry that we are having a whole state, who is already traumatized from last year, lives thrown into turmoil for a few cases.
    ive seen so much hurt and loss already in this ‘only 7 days’ period which people outside Melbourne realty have no idea about.
    Personally I’ve missed an important milestone birthday, I’m a teacher teaching VCE who has had to turn everything upside down overnight to teach remotely the very next day, while managing a chronic health condition. I’m meant to have surgery next week, which who the hell knows if it will go ahead, which impacts me hugely physically abc mentally. I’ve broken a tooth at the gum line and am in pain but the dentist can’t see me due to the lockdown. My geographical area is nowhere near the outbreak either. And that’s just me. I’m sure others have worse, but I’m barely hanging on. It’s too much. I don’t know how others are. And who bloody knows how much longer we are locked up for?? We are hearing days, weeks numbers being thrown around. We can’t plan anything, we can’t look after ourselves, we are left in pain, I don’t know how to do this

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    1 June 2021 in reply to Elizabeth CP

    Hi Elizabeth

    It’s a shame your hand appointment wasn’t helpful, again. It must be so frustrating to have your treatment interrupted by lockdown.

    Hang in there. I’m confident that you will soon get your recovery back on track when you can see a practitioner in person.

    To be honest, I’m more concerned about depression getting a foothold in your mind right now. I understand you couldn’t employ your MH strategies today, but we always have the opportunity to try again. See how you feel tomorrow.

    Please never forget that you have a rich and meaningful life. A husband and family who love you. Friends and local community. Your online friends here at bb. You matter very much to a lot of people.

    I understand both why you left the house on Sunday and why it was stressful. I’m really sorry that you found yourself in that situation.

    This lockdown is very triggering for many people. I know everyone in my house desperately wants out. I find my adult kids constantly asking if I need anything from the grocery store. Never had so many offers of help!

    But, like I tell them: patience. We’ll get through this. The sun never disappears forever.

    Kind thoughts to you

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    that's really amazing that ur kids are offering to pick stuff up from the supermarket - such kindess!

    i'm looking forward to getting some clarity on the situation over the next few days as this is quite a hard time for me.

    I don't think i can cope with this so much longer.

    i'm trying to move house at the moment and it's a lot of effort and stress .

    i have enjoyed some parts of being at home but overall i dont think it's helpful for my Mh and will be happy when we can get out of lockdown. sending kind thoughts to all

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    So are you moving now sleep , won't be needing that reverse cycle after all then hey .

    At anyrate yeah , bit worried they might add another wk to this yet myself . So many locations it's unbelievable but who knows at this stage we might get lucky.

    Strange but l went up to our main town today to do some shopping and the whole place was locked down bar supermarkets. Yet right through this last 12mths they've never locked everything down it's pretty well mostly been all open right through up here. So obviously l've gotta wonder so wth are they completely locked down now this wk , after everything else. Hope those bloody pollies aren't hiding something from us .

    Feel so bad for small business , they can't take any more of this and what are our towns and cities without the life of shops and cafes.Our main l've been noticing has a lot of closed vacant shops and businesses now , it's taken this long but many just haven't been able to hold out any longer after all this now, such a shame,

    rx

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  25. Gelati
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    I can't describe my feelings any better than pure rage and exclusion from a country I used to love and be proud of. I'm now part of the walled in metro Melbourne. And again we'll also become foreigners from out regional Victorians. To hear the rest if the country living their lives more normally stings. And to hear that they probably won't let us leave the city over the long weekend (two weeks from now) leaves me feeling hopeless and anticipating a very slow and gradual emergence from these rules we've sadly become so familiar with. I wish they would do their best to describe the rules in the tone of protecting us - otherwise I simply cannot un-align it from the idea of house arrest and punishment. It's just what my brain does. Why is it always Melbourne. The vaccine rate in Vic has indeed picked up but still painfully slow. My ex in Sydney, who was quite emotionally abusive when I broke it off with them a few weeks ago is probably delighting in this news. It hurts. I'll live, but just needed to let off this steam.

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    Hi Gelati, 

    Were sorry to hear that the lockdowns are impacting you negetively. It was very difficult last year and has been bringing back a lot of anxiety for a lot of people. Dealing with an abusive ex-partner and breakup must really be difficult at this time and we can understand that it's not fair for one state to be in lockdown while the rest ofthe country roams freely.

    If you feel it may be helpful, we’d recommend reaching out to our Coronavirus Mental Wellbeing Support Service. The website will be regularly updated with information, advice and strategies to help you manage your wellbeing and mental health during this time. You can also call our dedicated support line, staffed by mental health professionals, which is available 24/7 at the Beyond Blue Coronavirus Mental Wellbeing Support Service on 1800 512 348. 

     
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    Hi Gelati - 100 preceent agree, the language this timee round has been harsh and not about protecting ppl... there neeeds to be more emphasis on staying well mentally. it seems punitive and scary which makse ppl feel like they're under house arrest.

    I'm angry about that too.

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    Feeling more depressed then ever now hearing that the bird flu has spread to humans in China .
  29. Black Bubblegum
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    Being honest guys, while I won't do anything to self harm as I wouldn't do that to my family, I honestly don't care if I wake up in the morning. This is not life. The loneliness and isolation makes me feel like someone is sticking a knife in my guts.

    I loved this city my whole life, but I'm growing to hate Melbourne more and more every day.
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    Hi Black Bubblegum,

    We're so sorry to hear how distressed this is causing you to feel. We recognise how difficult this must be for you and many others who can relate to these feelings. We’d strongly recommend reaching out to our Coronavirus Mental Wellbeing Support Service. The website will be regularly updated with information, advice and strategies to help you manage your wellbeing and mental health during this time. You can also call our dedicated support line, staffed by mental health professionals, which is available 24/7 at the Beyond Blue Coronavirus Mental Wellbeing Support Service on 1800 512 348. 

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