Thank you for reaching out to the forums. I was thinking about your post last night and what I could say to help - I do agree with your friends that your situation is fortunate. I'm sure it may not seem that way at times but your circumstances are privileged, even though it seems like a catch when you're being ignored and dismissed.
There is a question that is used sometimes in a type of therapy, called the miracle question -the general phrasing is like this: if you could wake up tomorrow and a miracle has happened, and all of a sudden all of your problems had gone away,- but nobody had told you the miracle has happened, how might you know? So for you, say you were to wake up one morning and things wouldn't feel flat- you'd feel excited, interested.. What might that look like for you?
I really like this question because the idea is that everything is a blank canvas- rather than thinking about your current job and going up the ladder, it encourages you to think of anything and everything; because at the end of the day it's about how you feel and how you want to feel.
I hope this helps and gives you something to think about.