Hi again Jet;
It seems kindness doesn't work so well. Giving in to the millennium generation has become the norm as they can be quite manipulative, stubborn and apparently 'entitled' to everything but the kitchen sink without giving anything in return.
Mine's 27 and acted like I was the one in 'his' debt. Hmm.. So I told him he has my total commitment to his independence a few yrs ago. No more money, visits or favours. He's on his own except for emergencies.
I also read him the riot act the 'last time' he was rude and aggressive with me. I think I used the term; "..will NOT tolerate anymore.." and "If you ever..." a few times while I was nearly frothing at the mouth. I didn't wait for an answer either; very out of character for me. I'd had enough and just snapped.
Since he's been doing things for himself, he's far easier to talk with and even faces adversity with a good dose of optimism. Who would'a thunk?! lol
'You're' never to old to learn hun. Ha ha.. It's not the kids that need to change; it's us! Arrogance has no gender bias either. They all push boundaries and if you're not ready with a game plan, it ends up with them training parents to be just where they want you. You know what I mean?
I'm interested to see what you think about my 'tough love' experience.
With the overnight change issue, I still think a psych would be best at digging away at it. Sudden changes could be due to a variety of factors from simple hormonal changes to difficult life experiences.
It only took one sentence for my son to stew away for months. I had to poke him a few times before he let it out. Big misunderstanding! Whew!
Take care of you too btw; take in a movie or walk on the beach to remind yourself of your own independence at least once a week. You deserve it!