Talk to a friend, family member or Elder
Consider sharing how you feel and seeking support from those you trust and who care about you. Try and think about it as just another conversation. Describe how you feel and the help you need. It's best to be direct so that they understand how you feel.
How to start the conversation
Often a short message about what’s happened and how you’re coping is enough. It could be something like:
Things have been really tough for me lately and I’ve been having thoughts of suicide. I just wanted to let you know what I have been dealing with and that I am trying to get back on track.
Let them know what you need from them. For example:
I’m not sure what to do next. I need you to support me so we can find out together.
What I need at this point is someone who can listen to me without telling me what I need to do.
If someone wants to talk about your suicidal feelings and nothing else, let them know that it helps to talk about other things too. For example:
I’d really appreciate it if we could talk about other things at the moment. I just want to get my mind off it.
Be prepared for their reaction
People can react in a range of ways when they hear that someone they know and care about has been feeling suicidal.
Initially they might feel panicked or shocked. Feelings of anger, betrayal, guilt and self-blame are also common reactions. It’s possible they may be fearful of saying the wrong thing.
Their response will depend on how they feel, their past experiences and whether they’re comfortable talking about difficult times.
Their beliefs around life and death and their cultural or religious beliefs may also play a part in how they respond to you.
Just keep talking and together you can find a way through it.