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Topic: Animal cruelty, climate change, monoculture...the list goes on.

  1. ChrissyStar
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    I feel hopeless and have decided not to have children because of the state of the world (why would I wish to bring a child into this when I myself, do not like to live here?). Does anyone else feel the same?
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  2. Purple lady
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    11 February 2018 in reply to ChrissyStar

    Hi Chrissy

    I am not an advice giver but I can tell you I don't like living here either

    Purple

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  3. Peppermintbach
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    13 February 2018 in reply to ChrissyStar

    Hi Chrissystar,

    I really related to your words. Thank you so much for sharing...

    I don’t want my own children either for a whole range of reasons. But climate change and world overpopulation definitely factor into my consideration.

    kind thoughts,

    Pepper

  4. Guest_4
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    I've decided not to have children, not because of the state of the world, but the state of me.
  5. Mafe
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    22 February 2018 in reply to ChrissyStar
    I feel the same, Im worry about all this things, and makes me sad and angry that most of the people do not care about it... as if this planet will last forever as we know it now..
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  6. AQUA69
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    Hello ChrissyStar.... Yes, the world does seem to be heading down the wrong path in so many ways and it depresses me deeply.

    I once wanted to have children when i was younger but unfourtunatly never found a wife so i never had children but now i am in a way sort of happy i dont have children as i dont like the direction the world is headed or even is as it is now.

    I am 49 and worry what kind of world my nieces are going to be in by my age or sooner.

    So dont feel your the only one who feels this way. I am sure there must be plenty more who do.

    Regards AQUA

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  7. Ocelot1771
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    19 March 2018 in reply to ChrissyStar

    Hi Chrissy,

    Your post resonated with me. I often get disheartened with the world and think I'm just way too sensitive to live in it, don't understand people, and belong on another planet. But have you ever heard the term '...at night a candle is brighter than the sun...'? The world's in a largely unconscious state and it needs a global awakening, but we can do our bit through our own individual acts of kindness and light, and maybe that will raise the vibration of those around us.

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  8. Tokoloshe
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    6 April 2018 in reply to Ocelot1771

    Ocelot your second sentence sums up my life, my mindset, my grief.

    We are out here, struggling in a world that makes no sense to us. And I keep thinking 'why am I the one who has to change and medicate and toughen up to accommodate all that is shit in this world?'

    It is like giving in, giving up. The world won't change so harden up girl. This is what I feel is the message to people like us. Too sensitive, difficult, highly strung, idealistic...you overthink things...stop being so serious about everything, no wonder you're depressed...

    yep, give up on giving a toss and be happeeeee

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  9. whyamihere
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    10 April 2018 in reply to ChrissyStar

    yep. this world has been destroyed by human-kind over the years and now it's just unbearable. There's so many tragic things all over the world (sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, psychological abuse, animal-violence, global warming, murder, crime, sexism, homophobia, racism, age-discrimination, bullying, violence, north korea, cults, gun-violence, bombs, diseases, homelessness, wars, mental illness, corruption, greed, poverty and so much more)

    what kind of world do we live in. I'm so terrified just to walk out the door

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  10. DonPiano
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    I agree - I struggle with the notion of bringing kids into the world. Especially when there's so much darkness around, I'm just not sure I'd ever be able to raise someone in a positive way.

    The key thing I've found is trying to do as many small positive things that I can that will help improve the world in whatever way I can. Whether it be as simple as setting up a bird bath and native plants, or donating to charities, I hope that each little bit helps.

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  11. BeyondBen
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    Hey ChrissyStar,

    I know exactly how you feel with the state of the world. Animal Cruelty keeps me up at night knowing that there are evil people out there harming the harmless. Climate change is real (I'm a huge fan of Elon Musk, Go Tesla!) And now this flat-earther bull crap is doing my head in. I love Animals and Space Woooo Nasa! please forgive me though as I'm not a Vegan. I have 2 cats that are my whole world and can't bear to think of them being hurt or in pain. I live for them so they can live comfortable with me and to give them the best environment possible. I'm 38, no partner and no children but I do feel uneasy about bringing someone into such a hateful world.

    But there is good. There's more of it than we know it's just that good news doesn't sell as well as bad news. Live your life, be excellent to each other. Become the example to people despite feeling so helpless. I feel it too, believe me but being as good as I can be feels like it can be enough but I keep pushing forward. Let's just hope it spreads.

    take care.

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  12. Peppermintbach
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    14 April 2018 in reply to BeyondBen

    Hi BeyondBen (and a wave to Chrissystar),

    Sorry, I know you weren’t talking to me but I hope it’s okay if I say hello and extend a warm welcome to you here :)

    I really enjoyed reading your post and found some of it resonated with me. I could rant about climate change but I usually save that more for my offline world. Lol. Specifically, it’s climate change and what constitutes likely sustainable versus unsustainable world population growth that I spend a lot of time thinking about...but I won’t get into details here as i don’t want to start a debate. Too controversial...

    Anyway, as I said, I just wanted to say hi. I really hope you feel welcome here.

    Talking to people on this thread makes me feel a little less alone in my thoughts...I feel like I’m talking to people who “get it” here.

    Thank you so much. You made my day, BeyondBen :)

    kind thoughts,

    Pepper

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    14 April 2018 in reply to Peppermintbach

    Hi All 😊

    I have read this thread but have bitten my tongue and not posted because it is related to things I feel very strongly about, and I don't want to start debate!

    I can relate to most of what everybody here has commented about. Ben, animal cruelty keeps me up at night too. In fact it triggered a depressive episode for me, when I learned the truth about animal agriculture. My partner and I have become vegan after educating ourselves about this.

    We have decided not to bring a child into the world because of everything on this thread.

    It's nice to know others feel so strongly about such things.

    🌻birdy

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    14 April 2018 in reply to Birdy77

    Hi Birdy (and Chrissystar and all),

    Ah, our sensitive and tactful friend. I feel for your plight. I really do.

    Full disclosure: I’m not vegan but I really respect those of you who are so driven and passionate about protecting animals in all spheres of your life. I know you don’t do it for my respect but I’m expressing it anyway...

    Speaking as a non-vegan, I imagine it must be hard for you...I often feel vegans spend a lot of time having to half “apologise” for their ethics (even though you really don’t) and if you talk about your beliefs, you have to do it with 2000% tact around some people because otherwise you risk (some) people jumping down your throat or emotionally shutting down and not listening. Feel free to correct me if I’m wrong...or if you don’t wish to comment on it, no pressure :)

    I feel when you’re on the minority side of any issue (veganism, etc), I often feel it’s such a fine line between defending your beliefs/trying to convey your views and putting yourself in direct “firing line” so to speak. It’s tough is what I’m saying...

    I think when one’s views align with the majority, i feel it often makes life easier because your views are validated at every turn in a million little ways everyday. If your views/decisions align with the “norm”, you don’t have to typically defend or explain them. E.g. people typically don’t ask a person why s/he wants to have children but it’s often a different story if you say you don’t want to have your own children (I’m saying this from personal experience).

    It’s tough is what I’m saying...I hear you, my friend, or as much as a non-vegan can with my limited understanding...either way, this little space here is reassuring.

    We aren’t alone in this ;) You’re always welcome to talk to me btw. My views are pretty liberal/centre left. I don’t want to debate but I’m happy to discuss :)

    My respect...

    Pepper xoxo

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    14 April 2018 in reply to Peppermintbach

    Lovely Pepper 😊,

    You're so right, being in a crowded room (or forum thread!) can be like trying to step over laser beams, do the limbo under triggers, and avoiding other explosive devices so as not to set anything off.

    When our views align with the majority, as you say, we're validated at every turn, in fact, you don't question it because it is normal and not something to "think"about. But like you also very astutely said, if you think differently, e.g. not wanting to have children ... you are seen as selfish or something else and it could NOT be further from the truth.

    As we have touched on in another thread, things that aren't right are so often the norm until ... they're not. Like, a century ago women couldn't vote, that was seen as normal and ok and good. Black Americans were slaves and treated as property, thus was acceptable and seen as normal. The list goes on. The idiots in power who say climate change? What climate change? Let's just make lots of money for shareholders please, screw the planet. The people voicing out about these things are seen as radicals until ... the majority say oh yeah actually , this isn't right.

    Please feel free to talk about your feelings about nit having children and anything else ...

    Thanks for chatting Pepper ❤

    🌻birdy

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    Hi Birdy, Chrissystar and all,

    Lovely to talk to you. Sorry it has taken me a few days to reply...

    There’s a saying that goes something like “I won’t stay silent so you can stay comfortable.” I feel maybe I’m misquoting it, and I can’t remember who said it, but that’s the general sentiment.

    I suppose it is often what it boils down to or that’s how I feel anyway as I can only speak for myself...I’m speaking in very general terms and not about any particular issue. I find some (not all) people sometimes secretly prefer to stay in their own comfortable bubbles especially if their views and decisions tend to align with socially and/or culturally acceptable ones because being challenged isn’t exactly fun...

    I feel a person gets to have the privilege to stay “comfortable” (so to speak) and choose to ignore issues (if they wish) because your views are validated again and again and again everyday. So, as you said, you probably don’t have to think too deeply about what you stand for in this instance for that reason. This is of course unless you also happen to be highly socially aware, a critical thinker or very observant and sensitive then you might think a little (or a lot) deeper...

    But if you happen to be someone whose views and decisions don’t align with the majority/“norms” then you almost have no option but to get used to being “uncomfortable.” I feel it’s “uncomfortable” because your views and beliefs are often invalidated and undermined (not always explicitly or with bad intentions either) very regularly and frequently.

    I feel that can hurt and drain a person over time, and if we want to relate it back to mental health, I think it can have negative consequences and sometimes contribute to mental health problems (as I feel this thread seems to demonstrate or at least in my opinion anyway).

    Maybe you, Chrissystar and others want to share your struggles and insight as I’ve had plenty of “air time” now on this thread. Lol.

    Thanks Birdy :)

    Pepper xoxo

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    20 April 2018 in reply to Peppermintbach

    Hi Pepper and Chrissy and all 😊,

    (This is not a very good post, but anyway .... )

    You're spot on Pepper, I think to a certain extent you need to stick your head in the sand if you want to remain comfortable in this world. Once you become aware of an issue, you can't unknow it, so being in a state of discomfort about the state of the world and humanity becomes the new normal for some of us.

    And it does become draining, and saps your emotional reserves. And when you speak up about an issue, even coming from a loving place of compassion, people get defensive and therefore attack you and it's exhausting.

    I keep writing paragraphs and deleting them. This is my fourth attempt coming in here to reply to you Pepper 🤐 hard work 😓. I want to say lots of things ...

    I guess for me, all these problems feel overwhelming and hopeless, especially because a lot of people don't care about these issues, so they are perpetuated. Which can really have an effect on our mental health. The only thing I can do is my own bit, as others here have said. I can align my own actions with my values and ethics and that's something. Be the change you wish to see in the world, and all that.

    So I'm not really sure what else to say at the moment .... but I did really want to reply to you ... I might come back later.

    🌻birdy

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    20 April 2018 in reply to Birdy77

    Hello everyone

    What an amazing thread. How I love deep and meaningful conversations. You'd be surprised about the lack of these I had had during the past 8 years of my working life. Anyway, you all are so thoughtful and caring. I'm really pleased.

    I have so many friends who have chosen not to have children. I don't have children, it was eventually by choice, but not an easy one for us. Though I do get why people do not want children and now, at 64, I'm pleased I didn't - for many reasons.

    When I looked at environmental issues 30 or more years ago, I felt like many - depressed, angry, wanted to save the world. So I did a lot of reading about global issues and found, if I looked at it globally, yep, I'd feel dreadful, be depressed all the time. It was suggested by some very astute environmentalists to step back a little. To think of it more locally, and gave suggestions about how you could help. So I:

    joined the local Community Conservation Group, did my recycling (before having it picked up) - making trips to various locations to drop off - cardboard/newspaper, metals, plastics, oils, batteries etc.

    became a wildlife carer.

    became a vegan. Could not sustain this due to iron deficiencies.

    I like to think I rock the boat and I do at times. However, I also know, I am complicit with what goes on around me. Why, because of my state of mental health. It does me no good to think negatively about things. I grew up in that household and can't do it now. While I love the notion of being a radical, I just can't do that. However, I don't confirm to some of the norms out there. My neighbour's kids ask me why I have my hair so short - am I female. LOL.

    Anyway, I needed to read this thread and the lovely posts in here. You're marvellous! You sound like me 30 years ago!!

    Kind regards

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    22 April 2018 in reply to Birdy77

    Hi Chrissystar and all,

    Chrissystar: I don’t know if you’re still reading but, especially as you’re the wonderful thread creator, please feel free to chime in any time :)

    Birdy: Sigh, I hear you. Yes, as I said, I feel whatever a person’s life cause happens to be (conservation or otherwise), you need to be willing to be “uncomfortable” especially if you know that you will face a lot of opposition, resistance or apathy. I suppose change was never meant to be comfortable...

    I think sometimes the hardest part might be not losing faith in whatever it is a person believes in. I personally feel it can be challenging to not become disillusioned..

    But as you said, we can all keep doing our part for whatever we stand for. Sometimes setting an example quietly and gently can help plant idea seeds in people’s heads. Other times, a more outspoken approach is helpful. Circumstantial, I suppose...

    I hope you return to this thread at some point to express whatever it was that you had in mind. There’s no pressure but there is clearly a lot on your mind, and I for one, would be interested to hear what you have to say.

    Pammy: How lovely to see you here :) It’s interesting to see another side to people on these forums. I feel, as the focus is (understandably) on mental health, it can be easy sometimes to forget that each of us have our own passions and beliefs as well.

    You sound like you were (are) quite the force to be reckoned with. Someone with conviction and passion :)

    Yes, I agree with you that it’s sometimes hard to draw the line between acting and becoming complicit in any sort of societal or environmental issue. I feel that’s a struggle for many of us, including me, at times. It’s such an individual thing too so I feel there’s no right or wrong but it’s definitely something worth thinking about.

    I get what you’re saying about how taking a local approach can often be. more m feasible. I think it’s a real credit to you that you joined you local conservation group, became a wildlife carer and tried becoming vegan. Action speaks volumes so well done for acting :)

    As I mentioned earlier, I feel sometimes the hardest part is not to become disillusioned. Also sometimes even my own beliefs can conflict with one another so that’s another struggle of mine.

    Anyway, it’s good to talk to all of you. Thanks for giving me an outlet. It helps to feel a little less alone :)

    Pepper xoxo

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    Hi Chrissystar and all,

    There was something that I wanted to express. I feel it’s related to your point about the state of the world...in a some way. Maybe... I’m not sure where I’m going with this.

    I logged out then suddenly had an urge to say something and specifically on this thread too...trying to gather my thoughts...

    My extended family, for the most part (not all though), are somewhat conservative in their views. Ironically enough, a lot of them settled in areas in Australia that typically held (holds) more liberal views. Funny that...it wasn’t deliberate but that’s just what happened.

    So, growing up, I was exposed to both more conservative and more liberal views (both ends of the spectrum). I even went to a religious school at one point.

    Long story short, at some point, I decided to make up my own mind about what I believed in...much to my extended family’s displeasure and disapproval because in my culture(s), it’s considered “disrespectful” and “rude” to disagree with the “elders.”

    So, as you can imagine, I was and am “guilty” of that charge. How dare I, someone younger and female (I come from traditionally patriarchal cultures) dare to express opposition?

    The point that I’m trying to make is...what is my point again? My point is it’s hard to go against the norm or to find your voice when there is a lot of opposition or apathy but, as hard as it is, I also personally believe it’s worth it.

    The world can seem very bleak and unfair at times (I struggle with this too) but, as others have touched on, we can all do our part. What “our part” means will vary between individuals but the point that I’m trying to express is we aren’t completely powerless.

    I realise it’s easier in theory than in practice but put your hand on your heart, find whatever conviction(s) speak the most to you, and try your best to walk the walk. Maybe you will feel disillusioned and frustrated (or outright angry) at times (I do) but I also feel there is nothing more empowering than to live a life of conviction.

    Thanks for listening. Talk later.

    Pepper xoxo

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  21. ChrissyStar
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    23 April 2018 in reply to Peppermintbach

    Thank you everyone for your conversation - you have inspired me. Thank you, Thank you!!!

    In my attempt to feel better about life on Earth I have completed a degree in science (environment), become a permaculture teacher, turned vegetarian (on my way to vegan) & plan to raise as many meat-animals as I can to provide to my family & friends (for the purpose of reducing animal cruelty). It reduces my "guilt" footprint - a measure of how much I contribute towards the cycles I believe are immoral. I am also working on "weeds as medicine" - to tackle both animal cruelty in medical testing, autonomy & conservation efforts. It's all very local. But that still leaves the question - to have one, or not to have one....a kid.

    When I come out of the depression I often feel - I remember the word "ENLIGHTEN"...what it means to me. It means to understand, to have enough knowledge, to see things clearly, to be able to see/know everything which needs to be seen/known. I am proud I have enlightened myself on the state of the planet (Earth, our home) & the impact/contribution of my life. Maybe, from the enlightened perspective - a kid doesn't seem like such a bad idea after all. To pass this knowledge to a child. But who's - adopted or my own?

    When I was writing this reply, I considered using these words: "the BIG question".....referring to having a kid. But then it made me think - isn't the BIG stuff planetary? Yes, it is....plus...No, it isn't - everything starts at the small, local level. I guess considering this -bringing a child up to be aware & caring is the best option for our planet. So, a kid is the answer. Next step...

    To have my own or adopt. My own would have my DNA. Am a special - does this mean anything in regards to assisting human's survive on Planet Earth? No, we are all capable beings. Each as equally capable as the next. Looks like adoption is the answer.

    Any thoughts on adoption - is it even possible for a single woman in Australia?

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    Hi Chrissystar (and all),

    It’s lovely to see you here again :)

    I wasn’t quite sure if you were still reading but I’m happy to see you were...

    Well done, you! I love your pro-active and dedicated commitment to your cause/conviction (or call it what you like).

    I don’t know too much about “weeds as medicine” but it sounds intriguing, and the main point is it’s one of your ways to reduce animal cruelty. I’m guessing compassionate Birdy (another poster on this thread) plus others reading will be smiling :)

    The “big” question? I suppose the big question is open to interpretation. “Big” is relative, I think but that’s me becoming philosophical rather than practical now. Lol. Anyway, I feel the important part is you have personally decided for yourself and that’s what matters most.

    I love how you thought it through and came up with your own answers. It was a real honour that our conversations helped you...thank you.

    I personally feel it’s truly beautiful that you have decided to adopt because on top of all the wonderful things you have said, I feel you will be giving a child who, for whatever reason was put up for adoption, a new home that he or she might not otherwise have. That’s special in my opinion :)

    I must admit that I don’t know too much about the adoption process other than how it’s not always easy to adopt... That being said, I suppose a lot of worthwhile things in life aren’t easy.

    Maybe search online for organisations that can help?

    Anyone else have any more helpful advice than me?

    Pepper xoxo

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    24 April 2018 in reply to Peppermintbach

    Hello Chrissystar (and everyone) (Wave to Pepper ❤️)

    Yes, it is pleasing to hear that the conversations that have gone on here have inspired you! I suppose that's what these forums are all aboug.

    Regarding adopting children - it's been a long time since I looked into it. Back in the late 80s in Queensland, you had to be 40 years or under to qualify to adopt. The waiting list was 10 years! I was 38. So there was no way that was going to work for me. I had considered adopting from overseas, however, you needed a lot of money - travel, accommodation, travel, applications in foreign language. We just didn't have the finances. I'm not sure about whether single people can adopt, I'm sure though each of the Australian state's will outline their policy for adoption on their website. In terms of overseas, I'd expect you'll have to check each individual country because they each have their own policy regarding adoptions. Again, I'd expect that information will be available from the country's adoption agency website.

    Hope this helps you Chrissystar.

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    Hi Chrissystar (waves back to Pammy ❤️ and all),

    I wonder how you’re going with your adoption research?

    I know it’s early days yet though and no pressure to share/answer if you don’t want to of course...

    Pammy, it sounds like the adoption process was very gruelling for you.

    Hopefully the adoption process isn’t quite as challenging today...

    kind thoughts,

    Pepper xoxo

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    30 April 2018 in reply to Peppermintbach

    Hello Chrissy, Pepper, Pammy and all 😊

    It is great to hear Chrissy, how encouraged and inspired you sound! Isn't it lovely to hear when others have similar values to yourself, when you're often swimming against the current? So thanks for starting this thread so that we can chat about these things here in an empathic space.

    It is fantastic to hear about you teaching permaculture, it is full of such a wonderful concepts that so many can adopt (even on a small scale, or adopt fragments of the overarching concept) to make life better, for themselves and for other life in their microcosm.

    I was so happy to read you are converting to being vegan, it makes my heart soar whenever I hear of a fellow vegan. I was a vegetarian for years, when i finally educated myself on the subject, i became vegan, as did my partner, who has been a carniverous meat-loving south american all her life, like, seriously big time meat eater! We found it easy with all the great vegan products and recipes available now, so you will get there, and congratulations!!

    It will be interesting to see, if you go ahead with your plan to raise animals for meat for others, how that pans out. I have a theory that the majority of people would be vegan if they had to personally produce their own meat and dairy. The steps nobody sees when you buy it already ready to cook/use. You may inadvertently turn your friends/family vegan by presenting them with that task of ok: here's this precious and lovely animal I have nurtured for you, the rest is up to you (if you can bring yourself to hand them over). They might all end up with pet pigs and chickens they can't bear to harm!

    I agree with your ideas about your inspiration to "enlighten", including the next generation. It is a very valid point. Apparently two of the best things you can do to help climate change is 1. Not have kids and 2. Become vegan. But to adopt a child who is already in existence and bring the compassion and light that you have in your heart for the world, is a really valid and valuable quest. There are many children who need foster care as well, you may like to consider this, from research I've done for myself lately, they do not discriminate against single people or same sex couples ... there are short quizzes you can do on different foster care websites to see if you're eligible (if that's something that might interest you).

    I will need to address Pepper and Pammy in a separate post, I've ranted on too long 😯

    🌻birdy

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    30 April 2018 in reply to Peppermintbach

    Hey Pepper😊,

    I absolutely loved your post ("my point is ... what's my point again?" 😄), about finding your own truth, and living your truth, even if it goes against what "they" think you should be up to. I think we have a responsibility as individuals to not blindly follow what we've been enculturated to believe is right ... you are educating yourself about the world, and taking steps to live a life that is true to your heart and your values, and that's so admirable. Head high, shoulders back. You can be proud that you are blazing your own trail in this difficult world. "Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined!" Henry David Thoreau.

    I also was brought up in a conservative home, very strict father, attended a pretty fundamental Christian school .... dad was so strict I wasn't allowed boyfriends, forced to go to church, had to eat what was on my plate, was taught women should have babies to be of value ... that blew up in his face didn't it, here I am a lesbian vegan Buddhist who doesn't want children. Dad: you're welcome 😂. So, Pepper my friend, I say go girl!

    You're absolutely right when you say it can be difficult not to become disillusioned, and to not lose faith in what you believe in. What's also hard sometimes is to not lose faith in humanity! Which can directly affect our mental health, in my opinion. Another really good reason to focus on the local, immediate, what we can do in our own lives to reflect our values. Which is really empowering as well, because we do have power over our own actions, as you said.

    ❤So nice to chat to you on these things.

    Pammy, it's wonderful that you are/have been a wildlife rescuer and carer, it's a beautiful thing to do. Animals are just so special and precious and completely at our mercy: what you have done for the vulnerable and voiceless is truly wonderful.

    It is a credit to you that you committed to so many acts of conscience at such times that it was against the norm.

    It would have been very challenging to become vegan back in the day, so, respect to you for trying back then. These days it's so much easier, with amazingly yummy products, recipes and restaurants/venues that are vegan, and so many ways to ensure you are getting all nutrients in, whereas back then it would have been difficult and rather bland. My partner says she doesn't know if she could've done it say in the 80s or 90s ... so, again, respect to you!

    Love/light to all.

    🌻birdy

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    1 May 2018 in reply to Birdy77

    Hi Birdy, Chrissystar and all;

    Birdy: I loved both your posts :) 🌻

    Funnily enough, I feel at a loss of words. Lol. That “on the tip of the tongue” feeling except it’s not a single word but a post.

    I’ll get back to you with a more thoughtful post later this weeks while I think this over...

    In the mean time, I wanted to acknowledge what you said:

    I think we have a responsibility as individuals to not blindly follow what we've been enculturated to believe is right ... you are educating yourself about the world, and taking steps to live a life that is true to your heart and your values

    Beautifully said :) Thank you for inspiring and lifting us.

    Talk soon :)

    Pepper xoxo

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    1 May 2018 in reply to Birdy77

    Hi Birdy, Chrissystar and all,

    I just wanted to say that I quoted you in my post to Donte’ on another thread: “Can you unlearn? If you can learn then maybe unlearning is not impossible. Challenging mental health notions that we grew up thinking were true.“

    I thought your words were too good to not share so I wanted to spread your wisdom :) I hope you don’t mind...

    Pepper xoxo


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    1 May 2018 in reply to Peppermintbach
    You're a treasure 😊 have a gorgeous day ❤
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    3 May 2018 in reply to Birdy77

    Hi Chrissystar and all,

    I just wanted to say a huge thank you to all of you for your sometimes heartbreaking and sometimes inspiring post :)

    What I wanted to say was I was researching different animal shelters to do volunteer work with abandoned, mistreated and injured animals last night.

    There’s a whole range from admin to more hands-on. Must admit I would prefer to work directly with animals than do admin work. Currently still researching...distance is a huge consideration as I need to find something that is feasible location-wise given my current commitments, travel time, work location, etc.

    Thank you all for inspiring me but especially Chrissystar, Pammy and Birdy 🌻

    Birdy: I haven’t forgotten. I still want to reply to you. Talk soon...

    Pepper xoxo

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