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  1. Hanna3
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    24 January 2020 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hi Paws, waves to Katy -

    Thanks for the advice Paws. Poor Sam can't use the yard again... it's a shame. Didn't leave a note yet with the people there or phone the ranger, not up to things today and a long weekend nothing's going to happen with the ranger or Housing etc etc. Having a quiet day very tired after dust storms and heat yesterday and it's heating up again now. Just going to have a cuppa after a lie down and try to take Sam to the park again later. How are you feeling after the dentist is everything going OK? What's the weather like where you are?

    Hope all is going OK. Hugs from us here xx

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    24 January 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    Hello Hanna,

    Sam having to go out on a lead for a while won't hurt him. Sounds like you're having a rough day, I hope you feel a bit brighter after your lie down. The constant heat would be very draining, as I think, your having to deal with everything turning out more difficult than anyone would want is. So you're wise to get what rest you can.

    Be gentle to yourself

    Paws

  3. Hanna3
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    24 January 2020 in reply to Paw Prints
    Thanks Paws a bit of a downer today! I hope you're OK after the dentist etc. Yes I am not great today sorry I couldn't send a longer message to you. Pats to Woofa xx
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    24 January 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    awwww you are having a run of it! That would put anyone in a downer. Sorry to hear it.

    Hugs from me. Long day here so feeling headachey. Take care. xx

  5. Hanna3
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    24 January 2020 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hi Katy, sorry I went on a bit this morning was on a real downer. I hope you are OK sounds like you've tired yourself today.

    Hi Paws the long post I sent this morning feeling rotten came through I shouldn't bore people with my woes! Turns out at the library that my water bottle had leaked so a few pages of the book were water damaged, fair enough I paid for that. I seem to be making errors lately what with parking wrongly and spilling water on the book, maybe it's being tired from the hot weather and not sleeping and being homesick all in one!

    Good news is that I met someone who has a portable aircon she doesn't want any more, only used it for her toddler daughter last summer, now has ducted aircon, hopefully I can pick it up tomorrow evening and hope I can install it out the window and we might actually get some coolish air in one room at least, yay!

    Hope you're OK Paws, take care Katy, Tayla I hope you're OK, hugs to everyone for putting up with me today!

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    24 January 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    Hello Hanna,

    Oh lass you haven't been a bore. A place to share our woes is what bb is for, sharing our ups & probably more importantly our downs with people who get it. I know for me it helps to know I'm not the only one struggling & that someone is listening when things get rough. I'm sure I'm not the only one who enjoys being there for others or who enjoys chatting with certain people on here.

    Air con... how lovely... you wont know yourself... hope your couch is comfy to sleep on... or will you put it in your bedroom?

    My face is still puffy & my mouth still hurts. The pain med the chemist gave me worked well, but I could only take it for the first 24 hours as it could clash with my regular meds. The current pain meds only take the edge off, but it's bearable. Eating soft things still.

    Hugs to you & pats to Sam

    Paws

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    25 January 2020 in reply to Paw Prints
    Hi all,

    Yay you have air- cond!!! So happy to hear that.
    Exactly talking about our woes is what this place is about.
    I also had a tooth pulled a couple weeks ago. Still feels vulnerable and hurts at times. I think anything in the mouth takes a while to heal, good luck with it.
    We've had a cooler change here and some rain which is always welcomed- being on water restrictions and all.
    Let us know how the air- cond goes Hanna, hopefully it's not too noisy. I had a portable one once that made a lot of noise.
  8. Missing user
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    25 January 2020 in reply to monkey_magic

    Hey monkey_magic.

    I'm sorry to hear about you getting a tooth pulled, I hope you're recovering well!

    Tayla xx

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  9. Katyonthehamsterwheel
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    hey Hanna, hey everyone :)

    Hanna you're absolutely welcome to share your troubles here. I quite like "putting up with you". I'm also very glad, like everyone else, that you're getting an aircon - wooooohoooooo! You deserve something good to happen, and I think it will make everything seem less awful too. There's nothing like being hot and drained to make everything seem too hard.

    So yay yay yay for you and Sam xxx

  10. Hanna3
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    25 January 2020 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hi Katy, waves to everyone!

    Thanks Katy I enjoy the chats here too! Should be picking up the aircon late today, the young woman doesn't finish work until 4.30 and she has two small children so I'm waiting on her... my friend with a station wagon is driving me so she can help load and unload it with me thank goodness. Not sure if I'll be able to install it today or not until I get to look at it...

    The young woman moved with her partner from the city and they were taken aback by the hot summer last year and she said the temperature in her young baby's room was 35 at night so they bought the portable aircon for that room and it got them through the summer - now they've put in ducted aircon so they don't need it.

    Took myself out this morning and bought the newspaper and had a coffee and donuts while I read it in a café - bit of a treat for myself! Poor Sam only got a short walk because a storm rolled in. Now it's muggy.

    The rottweilers next door are going crazy even when they see me in the laundry they're still trying to get under the fence - I left a note in the owners' letterbox this morning about them digging under the fence and that I am anxious about my dog and myself and can they shore up the fence at their side and please stop the dogs from digging under it. This morning was scary - even after I shut the back door I could hear them flinging themselves at the fence, yikes!

    About to have a lie down it's hot! Take care Katy and everyone!

  11. Missing user
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    25 January 2020

    hey everyone, I hope everybody's alright. I hope you all have a great Australia Day.

    we have a family friend over until Monday. don't get me wrong it's nice to have company but I feel so pushed away because I want people my own age or teenagers even. I'm doing the right thing and showing them around where we live and being social and faking my mental illnesses the best I can, by laughing etc. but it's so hard.

    I'm struggling a lot. I miss my Psychiatrist. I don't mean that in a creepy way, he's just the only person who I can rely on. Well a professional anyway. I wish I could give him a hug and thank him. Maybe if I meet him in person one day I could try but I doubt that will happen, but we'll see.

    Take care everybody.

    Tayla xx

  12. Hanna3
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    25 January 2020 in reply to Paw Prints

    Thanks Paws I'm sorry your mouth is so uncomfortable still - having a molar out isn't fun at all. I hope it improves fast for you now...

    The lady forgot to send a photo of the aircon so I'm not really sure of the size of it (not big I think she said) so I don't know how effective it will be... I'd like it in the loungeroom (two seater comfy couch but still looking for a nice 3 seater 2nd hand so Sam can curl up next to me - the two seater is a bit too small). If it's not effective I can put it in the bedroom which is smaller. At least one room will be a bit cooler.

    Talked on the phone to a friend in Queensland who got one - she said it makes it cooler, not as much as proper air conditioning but it takes the worst of the edge off the heat indoors. As it's free I won't complain hopefully it will help a little bit! Probably can't get it installed today as we can't pick it up until fairly late and my friend is a bit tired.

    How's Woofa? I hope all is well with you. This town is busy with the long weekend and from the looks of it rather a lot of young guys already fairly drunk so I'll be spending it very quietly here - apart from the Rottweilers which are driving us nuts - poor Sam keeps trying to go out in the yard and can't understand why I won't let him - he used to enjoy strolling around sniffing things. Don't know when the owners will get the note I left but it looked a bit feral for me to go up to the door thanks. Take care xx

  13. monkey_magic
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    25 January 2020 in reply to Hanna3
    Hi everyone,

    Lol, hopefully the neighbours aren't as feral as their door looks and co- operates with you in regards to the dog situation.
    I put my air- cond on as soon as mum went to work lol. She can be a bit too savings conscious and only turns it on when she absolutely has to. I suffer in the meantime. So when she was out the door on went the air cond. So cool aahhhh....I'm also eating the chocolate shhhh......



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    Drats! Wish I'd bought donuts now! I was just at the shop and only bought healthy food, darn it! lol

    Hope the neighbours get the fence and their dogs under control. It's pretty awful not feeling safe in your own back yard, and yes definitely not fair on Sam.

    I've been and bought some books, as I didn't get to the library and really feel like reading. I've got a scandi noir novel and a memoir, so hopefully at least one is better than the last book I attempted. I hate wasting money. I'll let you know how they go :)

    Katy

    ps. I didn't buy chocolate either darn it monkey!

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  15. Missing user
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    25 January 2020

    hey everyone, I hope everyone's alright.

    I didn't do much. we have a family friend staying until Monday like I mentioned. it's nice having some company but it's really hard for me, because they go off and talk stuff, and I'm just sitting alone. I feel like I'm not there. this is usually when I hide in my bedroom or something but I'm trying not to be rude and talk to them and show them around the suburb as much as I can. we just went out for dinner to a pizza shop we usually go to, which was alright.

    I didn't eat much. I haven't eaten much at all lately. the current meds I'm on make me feel so sick every day and I've been on them 2 weeks. my Psychiatrist was concerned and asked if I've been vomiting and whatnot, I said no, although I often feel like I will. I feel sick right now, like really sick. and all I had was a couple of slices of pizza and went for a walk like I always do, now I'm drinking coffee. I'm so depressed in general but I'm depressed because these meds are making me feel so sick. I'll be starting new ones sometime next week or something, waiting for my Psychiatrist report to go to my GP, and all of that. he puts it up on my file on the website I do the Telehealth with so I can read it myself, he was going to do it yesterday (Friday, 25/01/2020) but he must've forgot. all good though, I understand.

    I miss my Psychiatrist when I can't see him, I don't mean that in a creepy way. is it normal? what I mean is it's just someone to talk to, and a professional. someone who takes me seriously and cares. I've never had that before so it means a lot. I trust him so much. of course there's things I still need to tell him but it depends on the time I suppose in the sessions, although he always asks me if I have anything else to discuss and any questions, especially this last session because over Christmas was very hard for me and he was quite worried. I appreciate that although I'm not trying to worry anyone.

    I just wish I could talk to him right now. I wish I could talk to him between sessions but I don't want to make him uncomfortable by asking. can someone please suggest something, if I should ask and how, what should I say?

    please help somebody. thanks,

    Tayla x

  16. Hanna3
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    25 January 2020 in reply to monkey_magic

    Sounds like you're enjoying yourself Monkey! Stay cool and enjoy those chocolates! Hope your Mum doesn't catch you....!

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  17. Hanna3
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    25 January 2020 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    I'd love to hear about the books Katy - I've run out of good ones and am looking around for something new to read. Usually I find an author I really like, read everything by them, then I have this awful time when I can't find anything good to read until I happen to find another really good author and then the cycle continues...

    Poor Sam he wants to go outside and he can't.

    Not sure about the aircon - picked it up this afternoon, awfully dirty, so heavy my friend left it in her car overnight so she can come back tomorrow with a trolley on wheels to get it up the five stairs to my place... the reviews I've googled aren't great... not sure if they were getting rid of a lemon. Oh well I guess I'll find out. It looks old, I think they must have bought it second hand. She told me "I hope it works" which is a worry, when I met her she said it got them through the last awful summer... oh well stay tuned I'll probably know by late tomorrow whether it works or not...

    Are you doing anything for Australia Day Katy? I'm not just a quiet day... take care xx

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    25 January 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    Hello Hanna,

    I will keep fingers & paws crossed it does work for you. If it was in the babies room hopefully that means it's not too noisy.

    Has there been any sign of your neighbours doing anything regards the fence. Have they even been outside to look at it that you've noticed? One good point to keep in mind is that after this weekend most businesses are back to full strength so if you do need to ring maintenance & the ranger at least you should get a fairly prompt response.

    I was going to ask what type of books do you like, but I think it might be better to ask what types of book don't you like? If you feel like something rather gentle/whimsical, I recently re-read Wind in the Willows & actually enjoyed it.

    It's been very humid here today, I'm hoping it's a one off. Thankfully we aren't expecting hot weather here until Wednesday. Have you had any more rain?

    Pats to Sam

    Paws

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    25 January 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    Fingers crossed for the aircon x

    I simply must share the intro to book one:

    "Stavanger is the city covered in dog shits. They stick up like small mushrooms and, in a grim way, colour the place in a palette of browns". - I Will Miss You Tomorrow - Heine Bakkeid

    Love a good opener :)

    Katy

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  20. Hanna3
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    26 January 2020 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Wow as you say Katy, that's some opening. I do like a good opening that gets me hooked!

    I haven't heard of that book, now I'll have to see if our library has it. It would be fun to read the same book and compare how we felt about it! A BB book club would be nice!

    The aircon is installed it feels good set at 20 but it's not hot this morning yet - the test will be a 40 degree afternoon. Still it works, it's all put in, next weekend due to hit the 40s dear heaven so we hope it will cope!

    I'm going to see if either the library and/or a café is open today, I really don't know in this town. Back later I hope you have a good day - what do you think about a BB book club or book suggestion section? Hugs xx

  21. Hanna3
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    26 January 2020 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hi Paws, my friend came around this morning thank goodness I had help to install the aircon, part was broken so we've taped it. Anyway it's in the corner of the loungeroom, set at 20 it feels good but it's not a very hot morning so we'll see if it copes in 40 degrees later this week (oh help).

    My friend had a look at the dogs and the fence and she said the fences are Housing so ring Maintenance on Tuesday and ask for someone to come out and take a look. Also she said Tuesday ring the Ranger and ask for advice. She said huge dogs like that need heaps of exercise. She said if I mention it at least they'll have a record about them. I doubt they'll get my note until they look at their mail box which will probably be next week. So poor Sam still can't go out.

    I'm checking in here before going out to see if anything here is open, will be back on later, I'll have a think about what books I don't like or do like!!! Hope you'll be back on sometime later today or tonight. Have a pleasant Australia Day, hugs from us here. xx

  22. Missing user
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    26 January 2020

    hey everyone.

    Happy Australia Day. please take care of yourselves - your mental and physical health, but have a good fun day if you celebrate or not. we have the family friend here until tomorrow so I assume we'll be going out for lunch or something if anywhere's open.

    still feeling sick, and still struggling. read my comment above for more info if anyone's curious.

    yeah a Book Club would be an interesting idea. I don't read much though. my Psychiatrist did recommend I read Beating The Blues though, I've never read a self help book before, and I'm looking into buying it but I don't read a lot so. but it could be beneficial, and at least I'll be doing what he says. maybe it will help. has anyone read it or anything similar?

    Tayla x

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    Hi Tayla,

    I have responded to your earlier post on your thread "Struggling to cope, please help" rather than here on Hanna's thread.

    Hugs

    Paws

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    Hello Hanna,

    So glad the air con works.

    There already is a thread on bb for sharing books in the social zone: "what book, books are you reading", though no-one had used it for some months, I've just posted to it to bump it up.

    Hope you found a cafe open

    Pats to Sam

    Hugs

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  25. Hanna3
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    26 January 2020 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hi Katy, I looked up that Bakkeid book your're reading on the library catalogue here and it's listed as being purchased, so I've put a Reserve on it - so hopefully I'll get to read it eventually! There was another book just reviewed in the Spectrum part of the Sydney Morning Herald that sounded good, the library was mean to have it so I went down this morning and turns out someone's taken it out and never returned it, so they're purchasing another copy. I'm going through one of those droughts where I just can't find a good book to read!

    Rolling storms here which makes it so difficult to get outside. Poor Sam still hasn't had a walk, too hot this morning now storms and rain, then it will go steamy again. Feeling rather alone. This is not an easy place to make friends. Tried to ring a friend in another state but she's down with a migraine. It's one of those days when it's all a bit dreary...

    I watched an SBS programme on Monty Python last night it was fascinating (they were a clever mob!) and some of the old skits they showed really were hilarious. So at least I enjoyed that.

    Tried the aircon for a while when it got hot today, I think it will help take some of the sting out of the heat at least. It makes a bit of noise but I can bear with that for the sake of being cooler. Sam lay down in front of it so he seemed to enjoy it. Hope all is well at your end, cheers from us here xx

  26. Hanna3
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    26 January 2020 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hi Paws, oh dear why haven't I noticed that thread then I wonder. Dear me I make hopeless spelling mistakes here too, I always notice them too late. I hope it's just stress and fatigue from the heat and not dementia starting up!!! I'll take a look after I've posted here thanks for that.

    The Donut King was open so I had coffee and two donuts - a really healthy morning tea! Comfort food but not great for my weight... still it gets me out of the house for a bit and around other people, I spend so much time stuck inside the house these days. Storms are now making it hard to get Sam even to the park - one rolls in after another, rain, lots of thunder and lightning. Then it gets steamy...

    What books don't I like hmmm - definitely not Romance novels and not Sci Fi. I like I guess what they call "literary fiction"- which really just means well written novels. I can read a thriller sometimes, Ruth Park's books are good, I like Australian novelists, also Canadian ones like Mary Lawson or one I read recently called Late Nights on Air (forget the author) - another Canadian but I enjoy reading about the amazing scenery in far north Canada. The author had been a radio announcer there hence the title.. Never been there but would love to! Family sagas are good. So I read pretty broadly. Also non-fiction sometimes.

    For some reason I never got into Wind in the Willows and I don't know why because I enjoy a lot of books like that. I still have some of my favourite children's books. E. Nesbit was good - Five Children and It - or The Secret Garden... What do you enjoy reading? I'll have to look at your post in the books section!

    Am dithering over whether to return to choir or take up a U3A class … I need to make at least one friend here - the one who installed the aircon has an abusive partner and also goes away a lot. The choir seem a friendly mob but ever since I had a dental plate put in I find singing more difficult... a friendly lady in the park told me her U3A group meets at a local club, has their course, then has lunch together afterwards, which sounded pleasant. I'm trying not to over-commit myself as I seem to get exhausted easily these days.

    How are you going, how's where the tooth was, and how's Woofa? Great to hear from you again. Hope you're going OK today... furry waves from Sam xx

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    26 January 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    Hello Hanna,

    Yummmmm Donuts!!!!! I especially love the jam ones. Donuts are supposed to be easy to make/freeze, but I don't dare because I don't trust myself not to eat the whole batch rather than freezing some.

    Forgive my ignorance... what is/are U3A class/groups?????

    You probably hadn't noticed the book thread because it has been over 6 months since anyone posted to it, I just remembered spotting it when I first joined.

    The rain must be welcome, though like you I'd rather not have the humidity. It's a strange day here... it's overcast with a cool breeze, but out of the breeze it's muggy.

    Thank Sam for me for the furry waves, Woofa's to lazy to wave... a slight thump of his tail is about all he's up for today.

    Hugs

    Paws

  28. Missing user
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    26 January 2020 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hey Paws.

    I'm so sorry for not replying to them just yet and other comments, I'm getting around to them all. Haven't had much of a chance but I'll reply now. Thanks for letting me know.

    I hope everyone is OK today. Happy Australia Day everybody x

    Love and hugs,

    Tayla xo

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    Hi Hanna

    Sorry you're having a dreary day. I'm glad to hear you've found the Bakkeid book. We'll be able to chat about it once you've read it eventually. I love the idea of a BB Book Club :) I'll have to have a look for the book thread Paws mentioned too (hi Paws!).

    Glad to hear the aircon is helping a little at least. And if Sam is enjoying it then that's something. It's a pleasant warm day here and I've been to the beach for a swim with my brother. Always nice to have a bit of company as I get really lonely too. I don't usually see so much of him, but all his friends are out of town on holidays. So lucky for me I guess.

    I was a bit naughty too on the way home and bought a sausage roll and donut for lunch. Now I'm going to watch a bit of tennis and maybe read some more of my book. I'm enjoying it so far. The other one I bought is called "The Prettiest Horse in the Glue Factory" by Corey White. It's a memoir and not my usual kind of thing, so we'll see how that goes. I always read the first page to make sure the writing style is appealing, and it looked good.

    Take care. Hope the storms pass and you're able to get a walk in with Sam xx

  30. Missing user
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    26 January 2020 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    hey everyone.

    hmm that book sounds interesting Katy, weird and sad name. I wish I read more. doesn't sound like my type of thing but maybe it's good?

    anyone want to make a thread about a book club? I don't read much but I'd be interested in learning about new books about anything. I love music biographies, DVDs, stuff like that. or even a movie/TV show thread?

    my favourite movie is The Departed, has anyone seen it?

    Tayla x

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