I maybe completely on the wrong track here but will share my view anyway. You know the emphasis on suicide prevention, Are U OK? day...and how to respond to someone who has anxiety/depression which could have them considering self harm?
(Word to everyone, I am not in any danger myself)
we tend to hear when someone suicides the people who knew them asking "Why didn't they SAY something? If only I'd known". My inward response has always been "well they probably did say something, or give a clue they were doing it tough, but you just didn't HEAR them"
As you all know I've been extremely low these past months with a new family problem I am consumed with and am barely holding myself together. This morning during a friendly exhange with a neighbour, a nice lady I get along well with, considerate, helpful and a good person.
On her asking "how are you" I replied "I'm very very tired" "Oh that's right, you've been busy with your ........." (and then named my hobby/activity.
I then said "I'm very worried about ....then mentioned something minor like our garden, plants, etc..saying "My anxiety is going through the roof, I can't stop worrying about it"
she replied "Oh if that's all I had to worry about, I'd be happy.".. Looking at her smiling face I knew immediately I couldn't tell her what was really causing my anxiety or how I was still at times, overcome with crippling grief for my partner who died in May. (a long now time I guess, everyone else has forgotten but it comes back crystal clear for me).
I think my point is...if one day I succumb to the despair and God forbid...self harm ...will her reaction be "Why didn't she TELL me how low she was feeling, why didn't she SAY something". I did make a futile attempt but with her light hearted reaction, brushing off my anxiety as trivial, I knew I couldn't go any further, with the possibility of a similarly useless reply.
I repeat again, this is a nice intelligent lady and we get along well. She didn't mean to make me feel worse, but she did.
Do you think this happens a lot, which could deter those on the brink of suicide from "saying something". I believe the majority do try.....so if this happens...do you think you'll be able to "hear" them?