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  1. Hanna3
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    21 December 2021 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hi Katy

    It looks incredibly hot in your capital city, I hope you are not quite so warm. Enjoy the time with your son.

    It must be strange having no virus and now opening up to it... Over the two years we've got used to it in a wierd way but it's tiring and anxiety provoking.. And dreary! Be a bit careful of yourself.

    Enjoy your break 😊🎀🎄🎇🐾🐕🏖️⛲⛵🎧🏄‍♀️🚣‍♀️🏊‍♀️⛹️‍♀️

  2. Katyonthehamsterwheel
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    Hiya

    Well covid arrived earlier than expected and now we have to wear masks. It’s not mandated here unless you had visited the big city recently, which we have. I’ll have to go buy my son one though as he didn’t bring anything. I’m not looking forward to our so-called new normal, and what rubbish timing! Never mind…

    We are in for a bit of a heatwave too. It doesn’t normally get quite as warm (lol, Paws) as it’s expected to be over the next few days. I’ve made Storm up some lick mats with yoghurt and blueberries and popped in the freezer, and I’m glad I bought her a cool mat to lie on as she doesn’t cope with the heat. Oh and I think her ear may be permanently puffy now? It’s only sort of half blown up this time so I think I’ll just leave it.

    Are you lovely people intending to treat yourselves for Christmas? I’ll have to brave the shops for food today (eek!) though I think it will be a cold platter…

    Many festive good wishes to you all 🎄♥️

  3. Hanna3
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    24 December 2021 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hi Katy

    From what I've heard your biggest problems in WA are low vaccination rates and a lack of trained nursing and medical staff.

    It must be strange just having it all happening now when we've had two years of it... It does mean you live with a kind of constant level of anxiety but you do adjust.

    Happy Christmas from us here! 😊🐕🎁🎀🎉🎄

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    25 December 2021 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hello Katy,

    Merry Christmas lass... I hope you have a relaxing day out of the heat...

    Chrissy Hugs from me & ear snuffles from Woofa 🎄

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    25 December 2021 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hello Dear Katy,

    Just popping in to wish you a very Merry Christmas...and wish you all the best wishes I have, for you to have a peaceful and beautiful day...

    Christmas Hugs lovely Katy,,🎄💚❤️🤗.l

    Grandy.l

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    Thanks for the lovely Christmas wishes. I hope everyone managed an ok day. Quiet day here with my boy- board games and an evening walk at the beach. He went back home today and it’s been hot here. Storm managed fine but I worried about the cats. Apparently the elderly don’t cope so well with heat. Back to low 30’s tomorrow, phew!

    Hugs Grandy, Paws, Hanna, and anyone else dropping by x

    ps: dropped into Kmart today for some cheap shorts as I can’t fit any of my clothes over my big bum lol! Too much sitting down over semester! Ha!

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    27 December 2021 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hi Katy,

    Ur awesome, love Ur humour and positivity ...,

    I didn't do a phd and still have that problem!!!

    I have stretch marks for the first time in my life.... I kind of like them. Like how our bodies become a home for us and take us through rough times! Hope woofa and Ur other pets are happy and keeping each other company x

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    Sorry , wrong Pet...Storm. x
  9. Hanna3
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    28 December 2021 in reply to Guest_1643

    Hi Katy.

    How did you cope with the hot weather over your way? How's Stormy after it all? I'm on a forum not at all connected with mh and there's a guy on it who lives in the capital city of your state and he's been telling us the temperature each day and it's sounded dreadful!

    Don't worry about the weight after studying -when I piled on weight while I was at uni my doctor told me I needed the padding for my nerves! I'm sure you did too!

    🙂👍🐾

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    28 December 2021 in reply to Hanna3

    Hanna, it’s generally 3 or 4 degrees cooler here than the big city (thank gosh!). My son sent me a pic of his feet in a bucket of water, as he doesn’t have aircon.

    Mid 30’s here today so I’m outside reading a book under my tree. Much cooler than inside. In a nearby branch a pair of willy wagtails are building a nest. I think they’re collecting spider webs, then they wrap them around the branch. I’m enjoying watching, and they don’t seem fussed with my pets who ignore them anyway. I’ve heard you can peg pet hair on the clothesline and they’ll make use of it, so I’m going to give it a try :)

    Padding for nerves hey? I like that!

    Katy

  11. Hanna3
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    28 December 2021 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hi Katy

    I've seen birds take horse hair for their nests, so they might take human hair as well.

    I've just read an article that says people sleep better when they sleep with their dog, as long as it's not also under the covers. How's that for interesting?!

    The forum I'm on has a lot of Americans and the ones in hot places like Arizona are all trying to move away from the terrible heatwaves and they're all talking about climate change.

    At least you're finally relaxing! Sitting under trees here near the river is much cooler than indoors, you get a breeze off the water.

    Enjoy! 😊👍🏊‍♀️🚣‍♀️🏄‍♀️🏊‍♂️⛵🏖️🍧🍹🥤🐬🐙

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    29 December 2021 in reply to Hanna3

    Hello

    I sleep great with Stormy, so I’d believe that. She does like to be under the covers in winter though.

    Well, covid has arrived in my town. An infected person was in the community for two days, and travelled on the train back to big city (luckily not the same train as my son!). So we’ll see how things pan out the next few days. I do wish I’d gotten organised like you, Hanna- I’ve no groceries! I’m hoping I can organise car boot collection as I don’t want to go anywhere for awhile…

    I have a book stack, a shady tree, and some lovely birdies to enjoy ♥️

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    29 December 2021 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hello Katy,

    A stack of books with a shady tree sounds heavenly... though mid 30s sounds like hibernating under the aircon weather to me...

    Oh lucky you having a nest being built where you can see it...

    Do you have a bird bath for your willy wagtails?... I have a shallow one that I made... the smaller birds all use it & it is fun watching them with their bath etiquette...

    It must be strange having covid about after being so long without it... I can understand you not wanting to go anywhere... if you do need to go out remember mask on & hand washing/sanitising even if not mandated are still a good idea to do.

    I hope you & Stormy can still get out despite the covid situation...

    Hugs

    Paws

  14. Hanna3
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    29 December 2021 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hi Katy

    Do they know if it's Omicron or Delta - both are circulating. We've got so used to having to think about it here... But it makes everything more tiring and anxiety-ridden.

    You don't mention getting vaxxed which is the most important thing you can do to help yourself..

    Otherwise as Paws sad it's wear a mask and use hand sanitiser and try to avoid crowds.

    If you can get some food supplies ahead and panadols it's a good idea.

    Shop when it's quietist if you can.

    Keep physically distancing.

    I think in the eastern states we're so used to it after two years! But you're always more tense than you used to be when you're indoors.

    I shop quickly and don't linger indoors. I avoid the busy times and only go to outdoor cafes or get take away coffee.

    Have hand sanitiser at home and in the car.

    It's just a laugh a minute isn't it!? 😕

    You'll be OK if you're vaccinated. If not you really have to be very careful.

    Good luck let us know how you are! 👍🐕

  15. Hanna3
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    29 December 2021 in reply to Hanna3

    I just looked and yeah, your on the news. Welcome to the new and wonderful world of covid... Fun it's not!

    I've just cancelled my hairdresser appointment today as she's an anti vaxxer who also flouts the mask wearing regulations and I'll get Omicron for sure if I sit in the salon for an hour!

    Waiting for another salon just outside town to open after New Year.

    Welcome to the Covid club Katy! Be careful. 👍

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    29 December 2021 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hello all,

    I enjoy hearing about nature in Ur area, and seems Paws like u know a lot about animals and plants. 😍

    It is always so scary when covid comes close..hope urnokay and can get what u need easily in a nc way.

    The hot weather sounds intense, how are u finding it? Xx

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    Feel really lonely lately now that prac and uni are done. I guess that’s only going to get worse with covid incoming. What will 2022 look like? Hmmm…

    Well the weather has been lovely and I’ve been pottering about. I’ve packed the Xmas decorations away, and pressure washed the verandah. Might go for a walk and then settle in with my book.

    I don’t have a bird bath, Paws. That sounds like a nice idea though. I’ll look into it. I imagine there’s something I can use rather than buying one.

    Ho Hum. Not The best way to greet the new year - feeling bummed!

    I hope you’re all doing ok and feeling content and safe. Socially distanced hugs, Katy

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    31 December 2021 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel
    Hi Katy, it is a hard time, love to read that Ur getting a walk in a d finding space with a book. I hope u have an OK night and I know I also feel really lonely over this time, so sending u a virtual hug
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  19. Hanna3
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    31 December 2021 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hi Katy

    You've hit that slump that happens when you've finished Uni and all your routine has suddenly stopped. You're in a transition period and transition periods are always challenging.

    A friend taught me about transition periods long ago and they're always uncomfortable. Covid makes things harder, although as you're on the coast so many of your activities are outdoors you'll be less affected.

    A birdbath would be good, if you have a Bunnings there you can usually get a cheap one and try it out.

    Cheers 🙂

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  20. Hanna3
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    3 January 2022 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hi Katy,

    How did you go with the Covid situation there today? It must be unnerving for you to suddenly have the virus so near. I hope you weren't in the shopping centre the same time as the positive case!

    I keep spare masks in the car, it's super annoying if you drive to the supermarket and then find you forgot to bring a mask and you can't go in! People here drive around with spare surgical masks dangling from their inside rear vision mirror!

    Those RAT kits are $62.95 for a packet of 5 here and they say you need to do 3 tests to be accurate. How would we do that on a pension???!! Gotta love politicians!

    Hope you are having a good rest with uni behind you for the time being. Do you ever see that friend you used to go walking with sometimes, the one who I think was a bit older than you?

    Pats to Stormy! 😊👍🏝️⛵🐠🐙😷🥤🍹🏖️

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    5 January 2022 in reply to Hanna3

    Hello

    You’re right, transitions are uncomfortable. I feel a bit lost. Add to that the discomfort of the covid situation and it’s just a bit blergh. In saying that I feel good today. The sun’s shining and I’ve walked Storm. I had groceries delivered to my car boot yesterday so that was a relief not having to go in the supermarket.

    I haven’t seen my friend, no. I feel like I don’t want to go anywhere or be near anyone. I wonder if that feeling will pass. It just feels unsafe. Most people here are carrying on as usual. There’s no restrictions or mask mandates or anything in place.

    Ive had the spring cleaning feeling of late, which is a good way to feel if I’m going to be in self imposed lockdown. I’m enjoying rearranging and decluttering and my plants have finally got some tlc!

    Might wash the windows today lol. Exciting life I lead…

    Hugs to all who would like one x

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    5 January 2022 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hi Katy,

    Decluttering and getting housework done is good!

    If you're unvaxxed then yes you're more likely to get sick and you'll be more infectious to others, so best to stay outdoors as much as possible.

    I feel safe outdoors and at outdoor cafes, indoors around other people isn't great. There's lots of older people here sitting in indoor cafes but I wouldn't do it.

    Enjoy your day! 🌻

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    6 January 2022 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hi Katy, it must be roigh with the cases and stress, and no masks.

    How are u feeling post thesis? There's so much pressure doing the thesis, it can take a lot out of us emotionally....

    I hope u can find some fun things to do and love that Ur tackling things at home. It's amazing that u can use the time that way.

    If it's hard to get out, is the park safer? I used to get take away coffee and sit in the park, more for my social anxiety, but it's pretty distanced...

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    Hello

    Yeah it’s funny having finished uni and my thesis, Sleepy, it’s like “um now what?”. Coffee at the park is a good idea. I went for a walk on the dog beach again yesterday, without poor grumpy Storm. I bumped into an acquaintance and got chatting and walked with her and her dog. So much for avoiding people, but we don’t seem to have any community transmission here yet. It was nice. I enjoyed it. How are things for you now? Have services etc returned to normal post Christmas/New year?

    I’ve popped into your thread, Hanna, and got ideas about how to prepare before our borders open. Sounds like things are a bit crazy your way again. I wish I was like Matchy and had a veggie garden and chooks, it would be wonderful to be somewhat self sufficient. Alas I’ll be stocking up on beans lol

    Its a worry that Sam had to switch diets too. I have 3 pets on 3 different special diets, so I’m hoping they stay stocked. I can’t even afford to stock up in advance as they’re so expensive! Crazy times!

    37 degrees yesterday. Too hot to clean out the back storage room - maybe today’s job :)

    Hugs x

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    Hi Katy,

    Yuk 37, it was 32 here today and I can't cope with the heat! It's supposed to go on for weeks yet... 😯

    I've got the new Jonathan Franzen book Crossroads to read, it's nice and thick and I hope it will help get me through the long days of not being able to go anywhere again!

    The shopping centres were almost empty here today, back to two years ago. People have to go to the supermarkets but the other stores were almost empty. The car parks were almost empty.

    There's very little fresh fruit or vegetables but other items were OK except long life milk is like gold!

    I am trying to avoid this thing until next February.. they seem to hope it will peak then and subside quickly but nobody is certain. Definitely the hospitals are struggling which is good reason to try not to catch it until later.. Friends in the USA have still managed to avoid it by laying low, eating outdoors and sanitiser and masks and avoiding crowds.

    Nobody knows what variant will appear after this! 😯😯You might find Dr Norman Swan's Coronacast on the ABC radio the best for accurate information by far. You can Google it. He's not alarmist, just helpful for up to date information. It used to be daily now I think it's every Friday at least until end January.

    It must be unnerving watching it from over there when you have been free of it all this time. In a way it's just the dreary normal here now, but I was just starting to enjoy being able to go shopping without feeling incredibly anxious any more and now here it goes again! Rats. 😐

    I've had "ordinary" flu twice in the last 5 years and it knocked me flying, and once when I was about 30 and the fatigue lasted for months. I remember all the doctors caught it (this was in a hospital) and moped about exhausted for weeks. It ain't fun.

    I hope you are doing ok there. Good to get things like panadol and throat lozenges etc in case - I also wear an MP2 mask now, not just a surgical mask. Some people wear even better ones but I think this is good as they're a snugger fit. Just not glamorous!

    Good luck with the dog/cat diets, I would check with wherever you get them from as Sam's diet was completely unattainable and I have had to get him adjusted to a new diet gradually with the help of a wonderful vet and vet nurse. He's gone from Hills Science diet to Royal Canin and managed well and I bought a huge bag of the new diet in case of more trouble. Now I can't afford anything!

    Big hugs! 🙂🐕🌻😷🤧🐶

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    I’m sinking into a low, which is a bummer, because I always feel it roll on in and I don’t know how to stop it. I try to carry on and do things but in lows everything feels so hard. I washed a few dishes, read a bit of my book and couldn’t concentrate, and now I’m back in bed.

    I have been trying to get more exercise after putting on so much weight. I’ve been walking every day, I did yoga at home, and last night I attempted push ups - I learnt that I can do 1.5 - ha! Hopefully I can find the oomph to do something later.

    I googled your book, Hanna. It sounds interesting. I’m still reading A Little Life. It’s really well written. I adore words, so I always appreciate a writer with a decent vocabulary.

    Well that’s about the energy I have for this post. It sounds as though you’re managing there well, despite everything. Good on you. Take care. Katy

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  27. Hanna3
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    9 January 2022 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hi Katy,

    I'm half-watching a movie about Jane Austen.. Sorry you're in a low and probably the pandemic doesn't help.

    The weight will come off eventually, all that sitting studying piles it on.

    I'll let you know about Crossroads, like the Yannigahara it's a mammoth read!

    I read A Little Life back in coastal town, I did enjoy it but I had a few issues with it so I'll be interested to hear what you think. It's certainly a good read.

    I had Crossroads out from the library but other people had reserved it after me and I hate having to read a thick book in a hurry so I bought myself a copy as a New Year treat!

    Depending on your sense of humour I thought Wayne Macauley's The Cook was one of the best satires I've read in a long time.

    All the U3a courses I wanted to do here are off for another year, so that's going to be 3 years what a bummer. The book club stopped due to the virus long ago. It's a total pain!

    Have you read Kashugo Ushighro's Never Let me Go and Helen Gardner's Monkey Grip? Both superb!

    Stay well over there! 🙂👍🐶🏖️

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    10 January 2022 in reply to Hanna3

    Hello

    I feel a bit brighter today. I ended up going for a walk/jog yesterday and I feel like it helped. I’m a bit sore in places today and think I’ll do some yoga at home. There’s so many videos to follow along with on YouTube, it’s great.

    I’ve been reading my book this morning. I think i enjoyed the first half more than im enjoying the second. But it’s well written and highly readable nonetheless. I’ve read The Buried Giant by Ishiguro, but not the one you mentioned. It was ok. I have Klara and The Sun on my list, but still a pile here to get through first. I’ll have to check out the others you mentioned.

    Its’s a shame to hear that things have been cancelled there. I sort of feel a bit in limbo here knowing the borders are opening. It’s an awkward time to be considering my next steps when I’m not sure how things will look very soon.

    My hons supervisor and I will be making some amendments to my thesis so we can submit it to a journal for publication, when she’s back from leave. So that will be something to work on for now :)

    Have a good day, Hanna, Sam, and anyone reading x

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    10 January 2022 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hello Katy,

    It is good to hear you are feeling a bit brighter today lass... getting out in the fresh air is good for us...

    I did chuckle at your 1.5 push ups... that's about how many steps I can jog for... 😁

    I saw on the news last night the blue kangaroo paws... they look lovely... I think they will be snapped up when they are released... so I might be waiting to get one

    How are Stormy & the kitty coping with the heat?... Woofa is in the prime position under the air con as I type...

    Wow getting your thesis published is an exciting prospect... your supervisors must think highly of your work if they are recommending publication in a journal...

    I'm off to top up my bird bath... huggily hugs & pats

    Paws

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    Gosh it’s the most perfect of days here today. Unfortunately I’m trying to get rid of a headache so I can enjoy it. I’m sitting out the back hoping the painkillers kick in.

    The willy wagtails abandoned their nest building a while ago. I’m wondering if something unpleasant happened, as there was neither here for a few days and then one came alone, and then none. Instead I have a giant praying mantis who seems to be trying to work out how to get inside. He was by the window yesterday, and today he’s at the screen door near the handle 😀

    I don’t have aircon, Paws, but the furs seem to tolerate the heat ok. The cats like to lie in the shade outside even on the hottest days. Not sure what’s going on with Storm though. Our walk last night was at snail pace. Maybe age plus her spinal issues are catching up?

    Well it’s incredibly lovely sitting here. What a shame you can’t all join me for a cuppa, chat, or silent contemplation x

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