Hi Azzdog, welcome to the site and I'm pleased you have joined the forum.
As you can see I'm a male and I'm not going to say 'it will take time' nor what else people are saying to you because that doesn't help you or solve your problem.
I want to concentrate on your music, that's the avenue where you can meet people and the suggestions I make you might say 'no', but I want you to have a think about them:
-dating sites only make people lose money, promise the world but frustrate people
-playing music will be able to control your OCD, it's when you stop your habits may begin, learn how to hide these, that will help
-put a sign up on a signboard, look in the paper for someone needed for a band, perhaps you can go to a pub and introduce yourself
-there are many job agents you can go to look for jobs playing or joining a band
I'm only saying this because if you can join a band then you will have dozens of girls wanting to go out with you
-if you are able to handle your anxiety then perhaps you could play by yourself, starting at a pub or a RSL
I'd like to know how bad your OCD is as I also have it, but I'm not as clever as you and play the guitar, you have an opening here which doesn't seem to be utilised.
If you see a friend with their partner, try not to think negative thoughts, that will close your mind and you may miss the opportunity that a girl is looking out for you.
Lety us know what you think.