It’s great to see you posting on the forum but I am sorry it’s in such a devastating set of circumstances. I am so sorry to hear that you and your family are going through this.
Offering specific advise on the forum in this type of situation is very difficult due to the complex nature of the events. I concur with white knights suggestion in the earlier post of getting some professional support quickly. Are you or your daughter already engaged with any type of therapy? If so, make an appointment. If you are not, it would be important to make an appointment with your GP and seek advise on the best way forward in getting the right support in your community. A GP can give you a referral to someone such as a psychologist or counsellor and someone who has the right skills and experience to manage this type of trauma.
If seeing a Doctor is not achieveable in the short term, I would consider calling the support line 1 800 RESPECT and speak to someone there who will point you in the right direction.
Another option would be to make an appointment at your local headspace centre for your daughter as you don’t need a GP referral to speak to someone there in the first instance. To find out if there is a headspace centre in your community, visit the following the link. headspace is only available for young people between the ages of 12-25.
A whole of family approach would be important and making sure you all have someone to talk to is really important, even if each of you talk to someone separately. It sounds like your daughters and son have gone through a lot and you are there to support them. But I wonder, who is taking care of you? If you can’t find the time to get support for yourself you can always call the beyondblue support line on 1300 22 4636.
Other options to reach out for support for both you and your children include the following:
Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800
Lifeline on 13 11 14
I would recommend getting support to help you and your family untangle the trauma as soon as possible. People can and do heal from abuse. There are many people who are trained work with trauma and support recovery. Getting support on the forum throughout the process will be helpful on your journey towards healing.
You are not alone. The faster you and your daughters and son get some 1:1 support, the sooner healing can begin.
Wishing you the best possible outcome,