Hey there mitch
sorry to hear that you are feeling a little down and struggling. I'm not in Adelaide - but Victoria. I only came out 12 mths ago at 47 and after a 21 years of a faithful and monogamous marriage. I didn't know what to do to go out and meet other gay guys, not necessarily for a relationship or experience, but just to make friends and socialise with likeminded people. Everything else would take care of itself I guess.
Someone put me onto "Team Melbourne" which is a website that brought together a whole heap of different LGBT sporting groups, and I joined up with the Running/Walking group, and now every Saturday morning I walk around the botanical gardens with the group and have coffee afterwards. It is nice to get out and talk to other guys.
Someone also put me on to the "Meetup" app. This is a social app - NOT a dating app. there are all sorts of groups on there, from (heaps of) lgbt groups as well as non lgbt groups like dog walking groups! I have now made quite a number of friends from attending events that the groups create. For instance back in March, a group posted that they were going to go to Daylesford (country vic) for the day to go to the Chillout festival. So I went along, and from that I have made new friends (2 sets!) that I regularly catch up with. It is really nice. I've been to other group events too, some I've made other friends, some events didn't do much for me so I haven't been back.
So perhaps try looking up Team Adelaide, there are a number of LGBT sport clubs to look at, and also the Meetup app. Worth a try for sure. You may need to not think about meeting the man of your dreams there, just let it come as it does. If you are going out expecting or wanting to meat him, you may give off the wrong vibe.
I don't like the dating apps either, and tried to go on and use, but keep deleting my profile and not responding to the messages. I just cant get myself to do that.
Try and stay positive, positivity is infectious and if you come across happy and positive you'll likely make new friends as I did! Of course, the opposite does the same in reverse!
Good luck, and keep chatting here if you need to.