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Topic: Acceptance, a golden goal

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  1. white knight
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    white knight avatar
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    7 December 2016

    Having goals allows us to focus on our ambitions. Every time our mind targets such dreams its one moment less of preoccupation with our difficulties.

    So why have I singled out "acceptance"?

    You don't use extreme force to learn acceptance. You mould it, caress it, respect it, be in awe if it..so it eventually becomes part of you!

    So think about the things that a good dose of acceptance could be applied to. Examples-

    Life- that the passing of a person as is the birth of a human being is part of life.

    Having a mental illness be it lifelong or short term

    Moods, extreme behaviour, personality...etc

    Employment struggles

    Relationships

    Acceptance covers as many topics as positivity. Being positive transforms a negative thinker into a world beater in everything you connect with.

    A few examples. Fear of death. Can you see the opposites of that fear to accepting that life has that ultimate end. Accepting that would put the matter at rest except in times of a loved ones passing.

    Unemployment. You've finished uni and that magical job of high salary hasn't materialised. All those years of study and and sacrifices continue. To accept that no matter how you apply yourself to seeking work, if you weren't to find a job.. then your best is sufficient in terms of effort.

    What I'm trying to explain here is that when we approach hurdles in our lives we have a challenge and such challenges will always come and go...all your life. There won't be a long period of time without a speed bump. Do we fall down in despair or do we "take it in our stride"?

    It is your choice but that choice, to accept the rocky road will always be there, isn't one some of us can naturally pick.

    I've accepted the following- I have a mental illness with medication for the rest of my life. It took me about 5-7 years to " get there". Now its no big deal. That's Tony, me, the way I am. Quirks like intolerance to traffic, crowds, parking meters, exaggeration and manipulation...yep that's me.

    If you study other people and quiz them, they have their quirks also. It may be a fine line between my quirkiness needing medication and their individuality within common boundaries of what we see as normal but it would be far great a battle for me if I didn't accept such a position.

    Acceptance of many facets of your life gives you calm, prevents ongoing worry and self inflicted trauma. The end result is being pleased your mind is at rest.

    I had a bad day Saturday. I accepted that. It happens.

    Tony WK

  2. quirkywords
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    9 July 2019 in reply to white knight

    Hello everyone

    I was thinking about acceptance and found your post , Tony, when I used the search engine.

    I am wondering if you accept something does that mean you can’t be angry and if youre angry does that mean you have not achieved acceptance?

    Quirky

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