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Topic: Coping during the Coronavirus outbreak

  1. Doolhof
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    22 March 2020 in reply to BillieIndigo

    Hi Everyone,

    It is wonderful we have this forum to connect on, to share how we are feeling, to be supportive and help each other where we can.

    Expressing how we are feeling and reacting to situations in life like the Corona Virus can be so beneficial.

    This virus is very concerning, I appreciate that enormously.

    On a lighter note, I have enjoyed some of the clever songs that are floating around on social media.

    Someone mentioned they had seen a photo of an Aussie style bidet, it was a sprinkler in a toilet!

    Another person wrote up safe alternatives you could use instead of toilet paper. Might be worth a look.

    May we all find ways each day, maybe each hour to get through this.

    Kindest regards to all from Dools

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    22 March 2020 in reply to randomx

    Hi all

    This thread is great reading. Thanks for sharing all your good ideas for coping during this crisis!

    Strictly listening to two sources of information is really helping me to feel that I am staying informed without getting confused. I've chosen the Chief Medical Officer and Dr Norman Swan.

    Catching up on the virus news once a day helps to reduce the risk of getting overwhelmed.

    Doing all I can to maintain good hygiene and follow the public health measures reduces my anxiety. Also, focusing on the facts, not media hysteria, helps to keep things in perspective.

    Have made a list of jobs to do around the house, ordered books online and started writing again to keep busy. My adult children helped me to develop a home gym program. So actually feeling pretty good. I have a plan and feel some sense of control.

    Keeping connected with others by phone. Yesterday my girlfriend and I each made ourselves a coffee in our own homes and then just talked on the phone!

    Stay safe out there everybody. Try to stay calm. We will get through this together.

    Kind thoughts to you

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    22 March 2020 in reply to BillieIndigo

    hi everyone

    mrs Dools,

    there are some good parodies, I heard in to the tune of I am going to was the man right out of my hair from South Pacific.

    I read from a woman who has been in self isolation to just except that you have no control over the situation and try not to plan too much for the next month . Things change so fast

    .She also said that the time goes very fast and all those things you might have planned to do like reading books or watch movies or TV shows or learn to play musical instrument or go through and tidy up all the papers you may not get around to doing.

    .She You will be grateful for the little things

    I’m wondering does anyone have a special project or a book or something that they have been putting off for a long time or something new they like to try?

    quirky

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    22 March 2020 in reply to Mark77
    Hi Mark ,that sounds like a good plan :)
  5. amblonyxx
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    Hello all,

    Just signed up to this community because I just need support. I struggle pretty badly with anxiety normally so this pandemic has just pushed me overboard.

    I'm taking all the precautions against it but all I can think about is running out of food. I live in a small country town and people from the cities have been coming to buy from our shops, leaving them just as empty but with longer delivery times. All I can think about is running out of food and my children going hungry.

    Sometimes I can bring it all back into perspective but other times I'm just locked into panicked thoughts.

    I think I mainly just wanted to vent that, I know that I need to get some self care measures in place but I'm just struggling
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    22 March 2020 in reply to amblonyxx

    Hi amblonyxx yes i completely understand what you saying.I live in a small country town and i dont even have a general store here.I have heard of the other towns of having people come in from the city and cleaning them out.Where were these people during the drought when we needed them spending in the country towns.I am having faith in the government that if we have to go into isolation that they wont let us starve.

    Take care,

    Mark.

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    22 March 2020 in reply to amblonyxx
    hi amblonyxx this time is crazy and it It must be extra hard as a parent not knowing what the future will bring...i admire your concerns for your children, i know you want to be there for them and that they don't feel lack. I don't know how to handle the panicked thoughts,but sending you compassion and companionship in this, as we are all going through it together. Hope it helped you to vent and you have a calm day
  8. Arielle
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    22 March 2020

    It's been a long time, i never experience the anxiety i'm experiencing right now, because of overthinking about this corona virus, lots of "what if"... in my mind. I have to slow down, avoiding the news, take one at a time, live day by day, count my blessing. Im telling to myself I'm still lucky compared to other people. I've been here before, I will overcome this, and this will be passed by.

    Cheers everyone.

  9. Matchy69
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    Just letting everyone know that the results of the suspected coronavirus case at the doctor surgery while i was there came have just came back negative.Which is a load of my mine.It took 4 days for the results to come back.
  10. Paw Prints
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    22 March 2020 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Matchy,

    that's great news

    Paws

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    Hi everyone,

    It really great to see this thread so active. There are some amazing suggestions and strategies to read through and its really reassuring to know that we can connect together in this online space and get support. You are not alone.

    Quirky has asked if anyone has a hobby they have been putting off and I thought I would share mine. I have just started cleaning my skirting boards and am getting ready to paint my main room. I dislike painting quite a lot....but I know I can do it (just needed some motivation) and I have the supplies on hand. The positive results when I finish the job is that it will save me a lot of money and will give me a feeling of achievement at the end and I will have nice white fresh walls.

    Putting down some goals on a piece of paper on the fridge can be a great reminder to focus on positive things during a time when there is a lot of confusion and worry. Goals usually have some basic features including:

    1. What your going to do...

    2. By when...

    3. What you need to reach your goal....

    4. What result/feeling/gain you will get when you reach it.

    Goals are really helpful in times when things are feeling hectic or overwhelming. An easy goal for example...

    I will FaceTime my 'family member' once per day by lunch time using my iPhone (which i need to remember to charge overnight). This will give me a feeling of connection during a time when we are all feeling more isolated and will also support my family towards using technology better.

    Setting daily goals and tasks is something we are all doing in little ways such as limiting news outlets as SummerRose has done and like Arielle has mentioned, using positive self talk statements to find a sense of calm.

    By sharing your goals and strategies here you are helping so many other people who are reading this thread.

    Super glad to hear that your clinic was not impacted and you are no longer under thread Matchy69.

    Nurse Jenn

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  12. eight
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    22 March 2020 in reply to randomx

    bidets are french actually! the name is a loan word from that language that means small horse bc of the way you straddle it when using. swear to god covid is what is going to turn the west to using em but i guess you had a good crack guessing they're japanese.

    there's an independent store near us my brother wanted to go to yesterday because they're being surprisingly well stocked irt food and a woman was talking in the checkout line about how she had an uncle returning from japan which had a similar crisis for a month and now has greatly overstocked shelves and when he asked if she wanted anything from japan before he flew out she said she wanted toilet paper because theres nothing left in aus

    sa's putting a 14 day quarantine for everyone coming in minus border towns. in vic all schools are shuttering on tuesday, and in vic and nsw all non essential places are closing tuesday. i know vic's bein pretty vocal about wanting a lockdown nationwide and considering the way our data for new cases have been curving we will be in deep deep shit if that doesn't happen in the next 2 or 3 weeks and i think im being a little too generous with that estimate.

    for quirky even if im looking at just playing animal crossing a lot when the inevitable quarantine hits, i still have books to go through that i've been doing. way too slowly than i would like. maybe tuesday morning i was finishing homework in the library and a girl comes up to borrow something and the librarian jokes "you'll be needing something to read soon". apparently they're encouraging more people to be borrowing now. but thats just from a girl and one librarian i was eavesdropping on

    (also also if i am allowed to shill an app i'd recommend if you have a valid library card is libby; lets you access your library's ebooks from your device to borrow and read them)

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    22 March 2020 in reply to Matchy69

    Hello all

    Quirky asked if we have new things we want to try?

    I've decided I'm going to learn a new language online. It's a great way to keep the brain active and something I've never had time to do. I'm trying to decide between Italian or Spanish so when we come out the other side I can take a trip and use my new skills. This is really giving me something to look forward to.

    My daughter is dusting off her old piano music books--she hasn't played in about 10 years--and was at the piano today. This brings me so much joy because she has OCD and is really suffering right now but she is trying.

    My son has downloaded a "prison workout" book and designing home gym routines for the family. He did mine first, which means I now need to move!

    We all have to try to live our best lives right now. Keep ploughing on everyone.

    Kind thoughts to all

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    22 March 2020
    Hi now that borders are going be closed will things i have bought interstate online be able to get here?
  15. Abbie121
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    I live alone and have been doing all I can to stay positive, busy and distracted, but the news tonight about the lockdown has made me feel a bit of despair.. not knowing when I can see people again, reaching out to family and friends but not getting much contact or concern back, and just wishing I had someone here at home to go through it all with. :(
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  16. Matchy69
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    22 March 2020 in reply to Abbie121

    Hi Abbie i can absolutely understand how you are feeling.Lonelyness is hard at best of times and now all these anouncements have made it so much worst being isolated.I really do feel for you.You allways got sites like this you can talk and express how you are feeling.It just feels like a total nightmare at the moment.

    Take care,

    Mark.

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  17. Abbie121
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    22 March 2020 in reply to Matchy69
    Thanks so much Mark.. much appreciated.. hope you're doing okay and take care too.
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    22 March 2020 in reply to amblonyxx

    Amblonyxx

    Welcome to the forum. and thank for your first post on this thread.

    Many poeple feel the way you do. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

    When you feel you lose perspective can you do something to get back in to calmer state or are you stuck in your thoughts .

    Summer Rose good luck with leaning another language. Thanks h

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    22 March 2020 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Everyone!

    Great news Matchy69..Mark...you would be relieved with the great news....and then some :-)

    Abbie121....I understand you loud and clear.....Good on you for mentioning the power of distraction in this crappy time....It can work wonders!

    my kind thoughts.....Paul

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    22 March 2020 in reply to blondguy

    Hi all .

    I've got a big lockdown question l'm praying someone knows the answer to.

    Can people still fly in from another state , as long as they self quarantine ?

    And will airlines still be come in and out bringing whomever dos need to come home ?

    My gf needs to fly back to my place , vic , from nsw. on wednesday, we planned on riding this thing out at my place for as long as it takes.

    We bought tickets this morning knew lockdown wouldn't be far away but was hoping wed would scrape in though but tonight , lockdown . it'll be full force by tues night .So now we can't find out and the haven't talked about this exact scenario on any of the news. tried to call jetstar on hold 1hr 15 , gave up. So we can't tell now yet , whether she'll still be able too.

    With NT and SA , you can still drive into them but you have to self quarantine 14 days, don't know if you can still fly into those 2.

    Any help very appreciated .

    rx

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    G'day, I don't normally do forums, because engaging online is one of the trickier things for me to manage with my anxiety, but I know that in the coming weeks and months, I may have less access to the things that usually keep me well. I've come on here now to check out the tips and wisdom that has been shared through the forum, about coping with the pandemic. And wow, there's some great ideas here. The single biggest thing that is worrying me about this pandemic is isolation and lack of human contact. I'm already feeling it, and it's only been a couple of weeks. Over the last few years I have fought really hard to improve my mental health and manage anxiety, and that has meant evolving from somebody who was reclusive, to somebody who is comfortable - and even enjoys - being around others. In fact, I need that contact now, as part of staying balanced and well. It's ironic, but 5 or 6 years ago this situation would have been fine, but I desperately don't want to go back to being the person I was then. Thankfully I still have my work, and interactions with my colleagues there, but who knows for how long. There's a good chance I'll either be working from home or stood down from my job in the near future, and that is when things will get much harder, not because of the financial or practical impacts, but because of the isolation. I live alone, my family is all interstate and overseas, several of my friends are considered vulnerable to COVID, and even the ones that aren't I wouldn't risk seeing in person now. I'm trying to stay connected with some of them through social media and phone calls, but finding it difficult. Partly this is because they are understandably dealing with their own concerns and may not want to chat, and partly because my underdeveloped social skills make it really hard for me to communicate effectively without seeing someone face-to-face. The very thought of picking up the phone to call someone fills me with icky knots, but I see it as the best of a bunch of not-ideal options at the moment. So that's all I got for now - manage my panicky feelings, focus on what I have, be grateful for the clear air outside (and very recently we didn't have that, so I'm not taking it for granted!), maintain my physical health, and take things day by day, hour by hour. I am currently in a job where staying up-to-date and passing on pandemic info is all I do, so avoiding media is unfortunately not an option for me, but plenty of the other suggestions are.
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    22 March 2020 in reply to randomx

    Hey RX

    The government has discouraged non essential domestic travel....yet I havent heard of interstate flights being cancelled at this time from the recent media reports....

    Have you tried the Jetstar/Quantas website for any updates?

    Dont be overly concerned at this time RX....Paul

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    22 March 2020 in reply to Care Bear

    Hello Care Bear

    Thankyou for posting with everyone! Being in a career where you have to stay up to date with all the media releases would be more than exhausting....I know this is an open thread that for everyone to talk about what they are going through Care Bear

    I dont think you have underdeveloped social skills from your post at all! If you want to elaborate on your situation you are very welcome to start your own thread about the pain you are going through..I have had sporadic chronic anxiety for 38 years and yes...this is a shitty time to go through when we are in recovery

    I do hope you can pick up the phone without feeling icky....Having a small (or large) support network would be invaluable as we speak...I have 2 support people that I call for some comfort

    my kind thoughts......Paul

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  24. Guest_8790
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    I have no solution how to cope with isolation as I do this every day. Not by choice but because I don't feel always comfortable in crowds. Needless to say isolating will not be an issue I think. Have two cats who are a comfort to me. Today I went out to get my medication and enjoy a coffee. However while there a family were there and as I sat down one started staring at me and I felt uncomfortable. I was next to a drink fountain and a child came to get a drink. I moved sideways to allow for social isolation and this made the family look at me and laugh. I felt humiliated so moved tables.
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  25. Guest_8790
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    In Addition to my last post i meant to add that I feel ashamed I made the mive at my table and felt they were judging me. I suppose I am paranoid but it was not done with malice

    So i will stay at home alone and won't.go out.

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  26. Cookie12
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    Early hours of the morning & have found myself finding this site. I'm really struggling, already had other issues that set off depression and increased meds and now this virus. I know there is a huge possiblity I won't see the other end if I catch it. I rely on support to get through and that will all stop if I come in contact with virus or get it. This is going to be really bad as I will end up bed bound fully and 24/7 fpr 14 days in the same sheets is not a nice feeling let along any acidents that may occur. Aspergers, depression, anxiety etc is an interesting melting pot. Had no support over weekend and didn't even get dressed. Couldn't even face wheelchair outing to walk dog. Life just seems way to overwhelming at present. Nothing is normal anymore. No family that appear to care or realize how deadly this is for me. I feel so alone with no real desire to do anything.
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    23 March 2020 in reply to Cookie12

    Hello Cookie

    you are spot on Cookie12...this is overwhelming as we are in uncharted waters .....(welcome to the forums!) Im really sorry that your family hasnt been there for you Cookie...Do you have any support even by phone?

    we are here and listening Cookie...Im Paul....and good to meet you...there are many kind and gentle people on the forums that can be here for you...

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    23 March 2020 in reply to Guest_8790

    Hey Rusty girl, I am sorry you felt humilated. That is not a nice feeling to feel.

    I was wondering if the reason the family was laughing was, simply because they thought their child may accidentally wet you. And you were moving away from the possibility of yourself getting wet.

    Hope you don't mind me saying that?

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  29. randomx
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    23 March 2020 in reply to Shelll

    Thanks paul mate.

    yep we're doing all that but it's not looking good. she also looks after kids at her job so it's complicated to leave and whether her boss can manage. he has a small business though and will probably be closed before she even got back but anyway , we figure it out today , not looking good though.

    might be another one here going through it alone by the look.

    it's mind boggling isn't , l knew it was coming for wks now but hoped we'd all have another wk before this , well until later last wk , by then it was pretty clear shutdowns were coming and fast.

    so much for my little shopping bits collecting , gonna have to go do a biggie today , well as much as l can anyway , just encase.

    l have one job to finish and get out which will take another week , not sure if a buyer will even be able pick it up though by if l can get it finished . thank god the govs helping out with money and whatnot , could be needing it if not.

    big hug to all living alone or won't b able to see loved ones , not sure how all that will work.my daughters only 20mins away but who knows if we'll bee about to drive that soon not sure . we have country roads between l could easily drive to and from no matter what but of course l won't want her driving or meeting me if she's not suppose to be or whatever,' l know many will be facing all the same with loved ones.

    my place here is fin for staying home , l've also got another job in the yard ready to go on with after this one l'm finishing this week and could actually keep working for another mth or two if l wanted,. probably won't be able to find buyers though because they won't be able to pick it up same as the one this week maybe , who knows.

    but l've got lots of yards here to run about and lots of open space in the area and could go out midnight walks and stuff anytime too so thats not a bad sitch really for all this l guess either.

    and l suppose we're all gonna be having lots of time for reno's or hobbies if your in units maybe u can get into some crafts n stuff , poetry , get creative.

    does anyone feel like their music , l find l can't right now even though it'd be perfect music takes me away except for when l'm stressed or too busy of mind , at those times l can't it's too much for more head and nerves.

    Well , we've all got each other here too people if nothing else , the internet lines will be getting a workout thats for sure.

    funny thing,. optus emailed saying how much they care then tried to flog me a new phone and plan.

  30. Matchy69
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    Hi everyone one of the things that is worrying me at the moment i am in Qld and think every state will follow Victoria.When the schools do close here and we are told to all stay home.What about my kids who spend half the time with me and half the time with their mother.Will that mean they will have to stay with only one parent and would the other one not be able to see them.I think we will be made to completely lock down.

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