Though I'm going through a rough patch now, I thought I might share the thing that has enabled me to change and grow and speak up about my mental illness!
and it's getting rid of magical thinking.
whats magical thinking? it's the daydream that 'one day I will be back to normal'. it's focusing on an imagined recovery, versus living day to day.
it seems harsh, but I cannot tell you how saying to myself 'ok if this is how it's going to be for the rest of my life, then I have to deal with it!'
acceptance of being mentally ill, of dealing with the symptoms made all the difference to me.
we talk a lot about society accepting mental illness, but as important is that we accept our own mental illness.
once I was no longer battling myself, no longer thinking 'when I get better'
if there is no better, then I still have to live! get on with my day to day life, just do the best I can.
some people say it's a defeatist attitude but honestly it's not.
being realistic and saying to myself, you've had these issues your entire life, you can't let the concept of 'recovery' hold you stagnant now...
it made such a big change, and it was then that I was able, for the first time to begin accepting help.
of course I still struggle, and this is really only applicable to those of us with long term mental health issues, but I encourage other people to look honestly at themselves and say 'rather then wait for recovery to live my life, I'm going to take it one step at a time and start now'