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Topic: Grounding yourself, What is it and how do you?

  1. Bella Donna
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    31 March 2018 in reply to Ggrand

    This has made me want to go out & add to my collection of candles & oils 😊 I love Lavender, Jasmine, Vanilla & Peppermint scented candles/oils. It is very calming to light some candles & just chill.

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  2. Ggrand
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    31 March 2018 in reply to Bella Donna

    Hello Bella Donna,

    I'm the same they are some of my favourites, I enjoy having a nice bath in a darkish room with aromatic candles burning, relaxation music and bubbles, lol lots of bubbles and just relax then some tension releases itself..I find it calming..

    Thank you very much for your post..

    Kind thoughts,

    Grandy

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  3. TealRibbon
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    14 May 2018 in reply to Ggrand

    Thank you Grandy,

    I found the post, I’m going to read through it later when I can concentrate more, but i am sitting in the garden now and drinking a cup of tea, so I think that’s grounding too.

    Take care x

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  4. Ggrand
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    14 May 2018 in reply to TealRibbon

    Hello Teal,

    Enjoy your cup of tea and sitting in the garden, look around at your garden, really look around and see what you can notice...ie: notice the coolness of the breeze on your skin, the different colours of the grass, the clouds and how there calmly drifting across the blue sky, hear the birds soft chattering as they play in and around the trees and ground..

    There is so meant things that you can notice, while your just sitting down having a cup of tea....looking around and noticing different things helps takes our mind of any negative thoughts, and bring us into the now/present..

    I hope this thread an help you, even a little when grounding is needed..

    Kind thoughts,

    Grandy..

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    14 May 2018 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi Grandy and all ☺

    I just caught up fully here, I commend you on a thorough informative thread. I find it very interesting and helpful.At some stage I intend to take notes 👍

    I'm not sure if this is the right place but as meditation was included as a grounding tool and being about reducing anxiety is why I'm mentioning this.

    It's what we do, (you and I and Wolfy (smallwolf) did a brilliant one too. The pond (page 1)

    Taking our mind into fantasy and writing it out.

    • It opens and explores the mind
    • It's uplifting fun and being creative the
    • No limits with fantasy
    • A biggy for distraction from deep pain and anguish.

    It's helped on a few occasions. I'm keen to continue and improve on it which hopefully can also help others.

    Also I read mention of foods. Celery I heard induces sleep incidentally

    Thanks again Grandy for an excellent thread 🤗 and everyones input is great reading.

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  6. Ggrand
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    14 May 2018 in reply to demonblaster

    Hello Deebi,

    Thank you for your kind words..

    I started a fantasy escape thread a couple of weeks back. I just haven't been back to get it started properly..I started it when I needed an escape..I thought why not put them all in one thread for easy access..

    Thank you for your information on celery. I wasn't aware of that celery induced sleep..it will be interesting to study up on food and the effects on our bodies..I think food can have an impact on our mental health.

    kind thoughts

    Grandy...

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  7. -headintheclouds-
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    Hi! Great question, and there's been heaps of great answers.

    My psychologist gave me a 'checklist' to help ground myself - she called it Mindfulness. When I feel detached, tired, panicky/anxious, etc., I go through the checklist & use it to calm down and focus. It's designed to use all your senses, & really makes you think about your immediate surroundings, rather than your thoughts.

    For most of the steps, stand/sit still with your eyes closed & list either aloud or in your head (whichever one you feel like, taking into account where you are and such)

    1. List everything you can smell. Food scents, wet dirt, even gross stuff

    2. List everything you can hear. The wind, people talking, your own breathing

    3. List everything you can taste. Even if it's just your spit, taste of food/drink you just had

    4. List everything you can physically feel. Clothes on your skin, feet on the ground, the chair you're sitting on

    5. Open your eyes & list everything you can see. People, colours, objects

    Hope this helps :)

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  8. Ggrand
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    25 May 2018 in reply to -headintheclouds-

    Hello Headintheclouds,

    Thank you very much for you valuable input..

    Yesterday I was having a run of panick attacks..I went outside. heart was beating so fast and with the extra beat every 4th beat it felt like my heart was doing summersaults in my chest...I has already taken an extra med, without much help...

    I went outside and the sun was warm, so I took my shoes and socks of, then stood on the dry brittle grass, it sure brought me into the now for sure, I stood on a cats claw Bindi..ouch..😢..I moved to the dirt patch next to it certain there would be no bindis there...I was right..While standing there I looked at the sky, the clouds have always bought wonder to my heart, it's such a beautiful and peaceful gift from Mother Nature to us..

    Then I heard the loud squawking of heaps of cockatoos flying over then, oh no, landed in the massive eucalyptus tree out my back neighbours place...although now one has lived there for over 10 yrs Ive been told..they were very noisy..(the cockatoo's).. Then I felt the cool breeze making me get goose bumps on my arms, by now panick attack was leaving me, I was feeling a lot calmer..so I then walked out front to where the sun was on the veranda and just there watching the peaceful movement of the clouds...

    Grandy. xx

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  9. Angelic27
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    4 November 2018 in reply to Ggrand
    Tips grounding I use writing stories or drawing also singing something I like to do a hobby to take my mind of my depression to help me feel better listening to church hymns or reading my bible also lollies and chocolate c always a must with me that grounding box sounds like a excellent idea I'm new to this site and forum
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  10. Angelic27
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    4 November 2018 in reply to demonblaster
    I too like to write stories I also love to draw I wish I could share some of my drawings here
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    4 November 2018 in reply to Angelic27

    Hello Angelic,

    Thank you for calling in and sharing with us your grounding techniques..Everyone I think has their own way of grounding themselves, I’m very happy you have found what works for you...it could work for others as well..Thank you very much

    I also like write short little stories for distracting...I also like imagery meditation as well...

    Their is a thread here called....”Creative writing for distraction “...your very welcome to share your stories in there for others to read and it will also help distract them....

    I hope I will see you around the forums...

    Kind thoughts

    Grandy..

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    5 November 2018 in reply to Angelic27

    Hi Grandy Angelic and readers ☺

    Was just reading some on page 1 (last 2 posts) again it's interesting what benefits fragrances can have.

    I think there'd be something positive and real in what they can do because of the reaction we have from association but also stimulating endorphines from smelling something that takes us back to a happy time in our lives.

    You asked Grandy what fragrances do we like. Two put me in another place ..of absolute bliss.

    Jonquils aroma (creamy/white onesl

    Truss tomatoe vines. Wow the amazing earthy smell. It's fresh and alive.

    Both blow me away.

    Angelica as Grandy suggested the creative writing thread you might enjoy, I'm one day going to land there too. It's very good. Do you have your art on walls or around you, could help with grounding as well .☺ I do.

    I feel grounded and at peace hearing the non screechy birds singing. Calming and melodic. And in cooler weather.

    Enjoy your days ☺

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  13. Ggrand
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    5 November 2018 in reply to demonblaster

    Hello Deebi and everyone,

    Thank you Deebi for your very valuable insight and ideas about grounding.... they are all very welcome.....I love the smell of a tomato vine..it doesn’t really smell of tomatoes as such....but you just know by the smell of the vine that it is a tomato vine...

    Birds, are mother nature’s beautiful choir, to remind us that their is beauty in nature, and allow our 5 senses can be grounded by nature...

    Sight.....Trees, mountains, clouds, animals, birds, flowers..

    Hearing....Birds,...wind...rain...animals...ocean..

    Touch......Trees...grass...flowers...dirt...sand..

    Smell.....Grass...rain...flowers...animals...fruit...

    Taste.....Mint....fruit....herbs....spices....rain...

    Have a good day everyone....

    Grandy...

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  14. Angelic27
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    5 November 2018 in reply to demonblaster

    No no art on wall but in drawing pad and will check it out the creative writing

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  15. gucia6
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    I am not really sure if this are grounding techniques, but they definitely help me calm down and get back from the state of panic/anxiety/overwhelming worry/darkness:

    Playing piano - I need to focus on what I am doing

    Listening to music - listening to lyrics often allows me discover something I have not noticed before

    Martial arts - full focus on the body movement adding correct breathing. This includes also just thinking how a technique should be done, if I am in place I cannot physically do it

    If at work - bulletpoint and plan what I have to do - this helps me overcome work related anxiety

    If at home - tidy up something small, e.g. put clean dishes where they belong, make shopping list

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  16. Ggrand
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    3 August 2020 in reply to gucia6

    Hello gucia6,

    I like what you do, to bring you and keep you in the present..The here and now...

    Anything that calms you down through a panic attack or takes away negative thoughts are a form of grounding..

    I think that the way you ground yourself is great because it’s also incorporating mindfulness as well...very well done..

    If your out and about and haven’t got access to those things that ground you..on a few of the pages here are some suggestions on making small grounding boxes/parcels that can be kept in your car, bag, works desk etc..

    Thank you ver much gucia for adding some really good suggestions and sharing with us, what works for you..

    Kind thoughts with care..

    Grandy..

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    4 August 2020 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi lovely Grandy 👩‍❤️‍👩 and everyone 😊

    I like this thread Grandy.

    Might have been mentioned a friend was taught to feel her fingers one at a time going up and down each one.

    I too like the idea of redirecting focus. Well done Gucia ☺

    Thanks for another good thread Grandy ☺

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  18. Balance
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    14 August 2020

    Hi everybody,

    My opposite to being grounded is being overwhelmed.

    Overwhelmed because there are so many unfinished tasks.

    When I think about the word grounding, I think of being in my garden

    and the image of wood. Wood belongs to the Earth element and is therefore grounding.

    Walking barefoot in the garden feels very grounding to me.

    Inside: I start to feel grounded when I finish one task before I start the next one.

    This feeling of becoming more and more grounded is more intense when I physically

    stay in one spot/room and don't walk back and forth all the time.

    Staying grounded for me, is closely linked to getting enough sleep.

    Sleep well.

    B

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  19. Ggrand
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    15 August 2020 in reply to Balance

    Hello Balance,

    I like your avatar...it’s what life is meant to be a balance between society and nature...

    My Mental Health Support took me to a river with an untouched beautiful and natural bush landscape around it, in between specialist appointments....

    I took of my shoes when the grass looked green and soft. It was cool and felt good on my feet...The highlight of my day was I walked up to a gum tree and hugged it..Did I feel something inside me...yes, I took my time and felt the warmth of the trunk, looked up and saw the leaves, gently dancing around in the breeze..and I heard the beautiful wild life that the tree houses daily...and I felt grounded and calmer before I had to go to my next appointment...

    Hugging a tree is like giving our thanks to our beautiful universe....I hope everyone tries it at least once...and once you’ve done it..you will do it again..

    Grandy...

    How do you like to ground yourself?....

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  20. Guest9337
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    Ive found using the 54321 technique with a little help from 1800respect did well for reducing my crisis.

    I've used a torch as a grounding technique, by holding it and speaking the words I create whilst focusing upon the torch. That works in crisis also.

    A 6 second in breath, followed by a 6 second exhale, using abdominal breathing rather than chest breathing.

    Closing my eyes to reduce sensory input.

    Chopping wood with an axe helps to safely release feelings of violence.

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