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Topic: Vent and then let it go...

  1. Ggrand
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    16 February 2021 in reply to Shelll

    Dear Shelly...

    Fingers crossed for you precious lady...You have been so brave going to the dentist...

    Hi Tayla....Harpbird...Magic..CMF...Mark and everyone reading here....

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  2. Harpbird
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    16 February 2021 in reply to Shelll

    Oh shelll you definitely are brave going to the dentist, oh I hate even saying that word, my horrors come back from the school dentists back in the 70s, ouch,

    mb20lover , you do have friends, there seem a lot of people on here who care about you.

    g’day ggrand, hope your doing well.

    foes anyone know how I can answer a post without having to scroll all the way back to remember what I was answering??? It’s frustrating.

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  3. Missing user
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    16 February 2021 in reply to Harpbird

    I don't have any friends in person though, I never have, but thanks Harpbird.

    And yeah I'm not sure, maybe you could try opening 2 tabs, Harpbird? 1 to read the comment, 1 to reply? Idk, I find it frustrating too.

  4. Harpbird
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    16 February 2021 in reply to Missing user

    Hey mb20lover, not sure if your in the position to , but could you join a local group, crafts, gardening, ect... 27 years ago I joined a local weight loss group, I used to be a bit chunky lol ( not big name weight loss clubs) just cost a couple $$ a week and I am still weighing almost every Tuesday night, ( not tonight , backs given out and having trouble walking) I really have made some very close friends who actually care and listen and they to have there own struggles and I help them with an ear or shoulder. Xx

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  5. Missing user
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    16 February 2021 in reply to Harpbird
    I've tried to do that here in my town and surrounding suburbs, even before COVID, but they don't let me, why I have no idea. Can't afford to study etc and don't know what I want to do. Couldn't get NDIS.
  6. Harpbird
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    16 February 2021 in reply to Missing user

    hey mb20lover, I used to work in a nursing home Before I was let go because I became a work cover risk, there are residents in them places that don’t get any visitors, have you thought about visiting one near you where you could sit and read to or do puzzles with. Some have led the most fascinating lives and have wonderful memories and stories to tell? Just a thought.

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  7. Missing user
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    16 February 2021 in reply to Harpbird
    Yeah I did work experience for 2 years when I was at school in Nursing Homes and I enjoyed it. I tried that too before COVID but I can't do that either although I have experience. Just seems to be this town, sigh.
  8. Busymum
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    16 February 2021
    Over my job.....over being a mum.......over other peoples opinions.......overwhelmed.....
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  9. Missing user
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    16 February 2021 in reply to Busymum

    Hey Busymum. I know how you feel about other people's opinions, not about the job and being a Mum though.

    I'm sorry you're feeling this way, I'm sure you're a great worker and Mum. It's their problem if people give you negative opinions, we value and care for you here.

  10. Matchy69
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    16 February 2021
    Hi all I am sorry about the struggles you are all having.I wish I had some answers for you and could help.
    I am on a waiting list to see the public dentist which usually take about 12 months and I think they will just pull all my teeth out and that will be it.I am still waiting for my surgery which should have been done by now.
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  11. Shelll
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    16 February 2021

    Woke up with a general ache in my mouth. Not hugely painful, more like a dull ache with with a dull throb in places. Also woke up with a headache. Thinking the headache is from the side effects of the contents of the numbing needles I had, the panadol and the "Happy gas". Yes I had that gas that made me feel weird, spaced out, yet I could vaguely hear the words that the dentist was a saying. That spaced out sensation bought back memories of childhood and the times I had it then. Felt like I had so many teeth out back then, due to over crowding.

    Okay I chose to let all that fear go, the fear from childhood of every single visit to the dentist. In Jesus name, I pray. I don't want to carry the fear anymore.

    Song now in my head "Let it go", "Let it go"

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  12. Missing user
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    17 February 2021 in reply to Shelll

    Sorry to hear that Shell, I hope you feel better soon, and same with you Mark.

    Sick of feeling awful mentally 24/7. My GP just says speak to my Psychiatrist. I can't see him until March 1. It's hard. I'm in pain too.

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  13. Shelll
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    17 February 2021

    Attempting to see the good things about this whole going to the dentist thing over the last 4 months.

    She asked me how was my vitamin B levels? Apparently if you are low you may not be as calm and not handle stress well. So I started taking a vitamin B complex. Have been for about a month. I think I am more calm. So that is one good thing. Still felt scared but I did feel a little different.

    The dentist issue led me to a lot of research. And I found out calcium needs Vitamin D to help carry it into the bones and teeth. So I had my vitamin D levels checked. And I was low. So that was another good thing to actually find out through this whole dentist issue. I can now work on getting much more sunshine and taking a supplement of vitamin D3. Also found out low levels of this may cause depression and anxiety in people. So that was interestin to know as well.

    Another good thing.. I think I am used to the people at the dentist office now. Since I have been there so very much. They do not seem as scary as before. I am also familiar with the location that the office is in. I know where the toilets are, the lift, the car park area and a nice picnic table outside if I want to sit there for a while. I guess the familiarity of the place now helps with the fear of it all. Lessons it. So that is a good thing too.

    Another good thing is that I have slowly learnt how to take care of my teeth better.

  14. Shelll
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    18 February 2021

    Need to let this go...

    I always wanted lots of children and I absolutely adore sweet little babies.

    Then I saw this tiny sweet little baby in their mother's arms at the checkout in Woolworths, just now. The baby was smaller then the average size newborn.

    A longing deep inside of me ached to hold the little one. And my arms felt like empty and hollow. Almost like a baby should be there but wasn't. I sort of wanted to snatch the baby for my very own. As I write this, well that sounds awful to me. I would never do such a thing. The longing still remains.

    I really want to be happy for this new mumma.

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  15. Missing user
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    18 February 2021 in reply to Shelll

    Hi Shell.

    I'm really sorry to hear that, I hope you can have kids one day. I'm sorry about yout health issues such as the dentist also. I hope you feel better soon.

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  16. Shelll
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    18 February 2021
    Sad.. Tears.. Let them fall and let them go
  17. Missing user
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    18 February 2021 in reply to Shelll
    Are you ok Shell? We're here for you.
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  18. Shelll
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    19 February 2021

    I am safe..

    But I want this to end. This emotional pain, this aloneness, this hostility, this disunity

    I feel bitter now, I hate that so much in me.

  19. Ggrand
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    19 February 2021 in reply to Shelll

    Dear Shelly..

    You say you are safe lovely lady...that’s so good to hear...but you didn’t say you are okay....I’m sorry Shelly you have so much soul pain and hurt...I so much wish I could reach through this screen and hold you in my arms in a warm friendly and caring hug....

    Its okay to feel bitter...sometimes it happens to all of us...it’s okay to let those tears fall as well sweetheart..they are helping in healing your soul...

    Remember the beautiful poem....”Footsteps”...I have been reading that so much lately..and do believe that God is caring me through the turmoil I’m feeling right now...Please dear lovely Shelly..read that beautiful and caring poem..then put your belief in it and try hard to have faith...that you are never alone...not in spirit nor in life..you have all of us to hold your hand and gently hold you up...

    Love to you precious friend..

    Grandy..

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  20. Missing user
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    19 February 2021 in reply to Shelll
    I'm sorry Shell, we're here for you. Stay safe.
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  21. Shelll
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    19 February 2021
    Focus on getting the next step done to getting ready.
  22. Sophie_M
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    19 February 2021

    Hi all,

    We just wanted to remind everyone here about the purpose of this thread. As we wrote in December:

    "We know there can be therapeutic value in venting life's little frustrations in a safe, friendly and anonymous environment like this. The alternative can often be detrimental to our wellbeing: keeping all life's little frustrations bottled inside is not sustainable long term...

    That said, we just want to remind anyone thinking of contributing to this thread to consider whether or not this "Staying well" thread is the most appropriate place to share their concerns. We urge those wanting to share more serious matters (concerning things like abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm) to consider doing so in a new thread of their own."

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  23. Shelll
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    23 February 2021 in reply to Shelll
    Only just coping today
  24. Harpbird
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    24 February 2021

    My vent for the day

    ARGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG

  25. Sleepy21
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    24 February 2021

    . I want to have conversations that are real and for my honesty not to be taken advantage of.

    I'm sick of manipulative r/ships.

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  26. Shelll
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    25 February 2021
    So so over this teeth/mouth issue. Had enough.
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  27. ecomama
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    25 February 2021 in reply to Shelll

    Feeling grr that I woke up in the middle of the night feeling stressed.

    Bad issue at work yesterday - a workplace bullying incident against me.

    I've worked out my plan of action but it's horrible to go through this process.
    Still, my conscience won't allow me to avoid it.

    Seeing my Union Rep before work.
    Not allowing bully to speak to me without Rep present etc.

    Just not liking where this could lead... vilification etc.

    I felt physically ill which woke me up, read a text from son that made me feel worse.

    I got up out of bed and mopped the floors!
    When the going gets tough, the tough mop floors lol.

    And come onto the forums.

    EMxxxx

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  28. Emo
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    26 February 2021 in reply to ecomama

    Hi Ecomama,

    I'm so very sorry for what you are going through right now with that nasty bully. I'm so glad that you have a course of action in mind. I hope it went well. I also hope that your son is alright as well as your other kids.

    I'm not very well right now so I haven't had time to read other posts but I promise that I will reply to anyone who has posted a reply to me as soon as I am feeling better.

    I just feel like giving up as everything seems impossible. I'm sorry, I just feel like I'm letting everyone down.

    Regards,

    Emo.

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  29. amberlite
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    27 February 2021 in reply to Emo

    i would like to let go of my anger it simmers and does nothing to improve my life i would like to let go of my anger because i keep it inside and the person hurt most is me i would like to let go of my anger because it is not useful i would like to let go of my anger because it gets in the way and it stops me from being free of hassles.

    GIVEAWAY / FREE TO GOOD HOME MY ANGER

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  30. Sleepy21
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    27 February 2021

    Super tired super stressed

    today was pretty frustrating

    My friends are pretty flaky and i seem to support them through minor crises while they ignore me in major ones... d'oh.... not great.

    My friends text me before buying a jumper lol and i'm there. i'm always there. Thinking of putting myself first a bit more.

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