I have just come across your post and I firstly wanted to say how wonderful it is that you have reached out for some support at a time that I can only imagine how emotional and worrying this is for you and also for your wife.
I think it is a wonderful idea to get your wife to see the GP however my opinion is honesty, it is only my opinion and I am no professional but I feel like if you sell her a false story of why she is to go to see her GP then when she is there she realizes that is not the case I would be concerned that her reaction would be to be very angry and also it may fuel her original thoughts that there is a conspiracy, this act, whilst with every good intention on your behalf may make her feel worse.
If you are able to secure an appointment today or even tomorrow I would be inclined to tell her:
- You have called her GP
- You are very concerned about the situations/scenarios that she is claiming that are true
- You have tried to reassure her that they are not true and would like her to discuss this further with her GP
- You are being open and honest with her to show her full transparency
There also seems to be little you can do to convince her that you are not doing these behaviours so I think trying to do so may only make it worse for you and for her too. Maybe a different approach of asking her how you can reassure her you are not doing these things, maybe leaving your phone on the kitchen bench so she can see you have nothing to hide. Ask her if there is something specific that she has expereinced to led her to believe this.
I am not sure this is something you can "fix" so trying not to might prove to be very helpful to you both.
Also maybe sitting with her and asking her what she needs from you right now to support her might also be good words for her to hear and if she knows it would be helpful for you to hear too.
I am so sorry you are going through this, it sounds absolutely heartbreaking.
We are here for you and there are the amazing support people too on the 1300 22 4636 number if you need to chat and to get some support.
So glad you have reached out and we are here for you.