Hi Dr Kim. I am a 24/yo male, and I would appreciate your advice on what I think is a current undiagnosed mental issue of my own. I have a problem with missing details, which seems to be getting worse. Here's a few examples of what I mean:
- I'll be engaged in conversation with another person, whom I am listening intently to. During the conversation, I'll make a statement which the other person in the conversation made only moments below. The issue is not because I was not listening, but for reasons beyond me, my mind simply does not register certain details of a conversation as they occur. This gives the other person the impression that I am not listening to them, even though I am holding on to every single word that they say.
- When writing emails, I'll review it before sending. At the point of sending the email, I am certain that the email is 100% spelling and grammar correct. Then, after reading the email again after it has been sent, I'll notice extremely obvious typos and mistakes. Again, for some reason, my mind does not register this when I am in the act of doing, like my conversation example above.
- When putting the dishes away from the dishwasher, I'll check each dish and utensil to make sure they are clean before putting them away. In the act, I am certain that every item I am putting away is clean. However, after I have finished, my partner will point out that the dishes still have dirt on them, even though I swore in the act that they were clean.
- The three examples above would suggest that I'm simply a careless person, with a poor memory and a poor recall of details. I wish the answer was that easy! Many, many people have commented on my ability to recall very fine details, usually dates, times and places almost instantly from any point of a conversation. In most cases, I am recalling these facts many years after I learnt about them. With that said, I am very confused as to why I can recall a date, time and place from history, but can't differentiate between a clean and dirty fork!
My personal hunch is that I may have undiagnosed autism. I speak with a mild stutter that I cannot control and I do have issues with anxiety. I think that the points I've stated above are aligned with the symptoms of this condition, but I would like to know your professional opinion as I am no doctor!