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Topic: Trying to cope with home stress and school stress

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  1. Kiki207
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    30 posts
    6 July 2019

    Hi all,

    My name is Kiki and I just want to say hi to everyone at BB. I am new so if anyone could please help me with navigating the site that would be much appreciated.

    This is my first post so I am a bit nervous.

    Anyways, I am having trouble dealing with home and school stress. As I am just starting high school, its a big step up in classwork and friends. (we've all become moody teens).

    My grandparents went overseas 3 weeks ago with my mum (mum came back after 2 weeks) to go help look after my great grandfather in hospital. For privacy and identification reasons, I'm not going to go into too many details of that, but I will tell you that there's some trouble going on with my great grandfathers full time carer and family over there. Everyone wants to do best by my great grandfather, but everyone has their different ideas. I think I'm getting in the way, cause as a kid I cant really do much to help.

    So in my school, holidays are a week longer for the holiday dividing semesters, so I've already been on holidays for a week. I left school with fights going on with my friends, over the stupidest things, but fights all the same. I thought it was all sorted, but as soon as I tried to text my friend she kept on finding reasons to push me away all week. Last night I was over it, and started to ignore her because I didn't have the courage to confront her about it. After she texted things like "what's wrong Kiki seriously I'm worried" it all just rushed out of me. At first I said the person was anonymous, but she seemed really mad at whoever did it, so I quoted one of her texts that really hit me. I know it was a stupid idea, you dont have to tell me. "Did I ever tell you I don't live with my phone? I cant talk right now!" She had said. Once I quoted it, she started sending full paragraphs of apology, and so did I. I was crying, and she probably was too. Were all sorted now, but I feel guilty for not even considering that she might have her own stress, I was so caught up in my own.

    I just feel like a nuisance and that people will be better off without me.

    Thank you for taking the time to read this, I feel better from just typing.

    ~Kiki

    "did I ever tell you I don't live with
  2. quirkywords
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    7 July 2019 in reply to Kiki207

    Kiki,

    Welcome to the forum and well done for starting your own thread.

    You have navigated the site well so far. You can browse threads by either going to the all posts section or type topics into the search engine on top of page.

    Starting high school is a big step as you say with moods and changes from primary school.

    Home stress is hard when you see your loved ones trying to help your great grandfather and see that they are stressed .

    It is hard when dealing with your own stress to see others are struggling too. I am glad you sorted things with your friend and it is obvious she cares.

    Plesae don’t feel guilty I can see you care about people and it is hard when you think your friend is avoiding you for whatever reason. you were honest and sorted it out. That is a real skill rather than let the situation get worse, you opened up and worked things out.

    I see a very kind sensitive person not a nuisance at all.

    I found my first year of high school so overwhelming as I loved primary school and high school was so big and busy.

    Kiki, thank you for sharing your story.

    You may like to discuss things further and feel free to post here as much as you like.

    Quirky

  3. Kiki207
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    30 posts
    7 July 2019 in reply to quirkywords

    Quirky,

    Thank you so much for your generous post. It really helped me feel better, and right now I feel like im right in front of the sun. (but not burning)

    Have a good one

    Kiki

  4. quirkywords
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    8 July 2019 in reply to Kiki207

    Kiki,

    Thanks for replying.

    I have noticed you have been helping other people on the forum by posting .

    That is good and you probably notice by helping others you help yourself.

    Like you I have a journal and I find it is useful to write things that worry me or upset me.

    You seem very wise and sensible for your age.

    Quirky

  5. Kiki207
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    30 posts
    9 July 2019 in reply to quirkywords

    Quirky,

    You are absolutely right helping others calms myself and helps me to think about me in a good way because I did a good thing for someone else. I also find writing in a journal useful, and it also helps me to reflect and notice what's gotten better and what still needs work. Thank you so much for taking the time to respond. I really appreciate it.

    xox

    Kiki

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