Spending a lot of time with your work colleagues puts you in a good position to notice when something’s up. A lot of us have close friendships with one or more of our workmates. However, it can be tricky to navigate a conversation with someone about how they’re going – beyond the everyday chats you have – in your workplace.

One in five workers in Australia is currently experiencing a mental health condition so it’s possible that someone you know may be going through a hard time and be in need of support. You may notice changes in a workmate’s behaviour that might indicate they’re not coping.

Here are some changes in behaviour to look out for:

  • difficulty concentrating or making decisions
  • decreased or inconsistent productivity
  • often away or late
  • making more errors in work and missing deadlines
  • not attending social events they would normally like
  • showing less interest in work and those around them
  • seemingly generally unhappy
  • constantly tired and run-down.
  • saying things like “I’m a failure” or “It’s my fault”

We all get sad or moody from time to time but if you notice that many of these symptoms are present for more than two weeks then it may be time to have a conversation with them about it.

Find out more information on depression, types of depression, available treatment and support.

Having the conversation

It can be tricky to have personal conversations in the workplace so the first step might be to ask them out for a coffee or lunch. It’s possible that your friend may already have a history of mental health issues, or on the flip-side, they may have never experienced something like this before.

Always try to be considerate and supportive – making sure to focus on them and how they are, rather than problems that may have happened at work.

It may sound simple, but a good first step is asking, “Are you OK?” Tell them you’ve noticed they haven’t seemed like themself lately.

Ensure they know your conversation is private, and if they’re not comfortable opening up to you, encourage them to talk to someone else.  It might be HR, their manager or a support service outside of work.  

If they do want to talk, make sure to listen and let them speak. Offer to help them seek further support if necessary but remember, it is possible to work with a mental health condition, so often this will be more about helping them improve their work-life, rather than them stopping work altogether.

Talk through next steps together and after the conversation is over, be sure to check back in with them in the following weeks to see how they’re going.

Find more tips on things to say and starting a conversation. For more advice on looking after your mental health at work, and that of your colleagues, visit our Heads Up website.

Related reading: Accidental counselling – when someone confides in you

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